mental scribbles

someday i’ll look tiny even in baggy clothes

and not like a runaway circus tent

i’ve got control

you’ve craved that food for minutes

you will get there

me spending $30 on food:

and my disordered ass brain is all:

“we need some labs, you’ll need to fast for 12 hrs beforehand, will that be an issue?”

me:

eliminate from your life anything that has to do with bad relationships, such as TV shows, bad experiences of other people (or your own), or anything that makes you move away from the idea of the relationship you want.

work on your limiting beliefs (related to the previous point) ask yourself: what are my beliefs about men (or women)? (example: men are unfaithful, relationships do not last forever, love does not exist, i have to be attractive to be loved) are these beliefs positive or negative? work on the negative ones. what do i think about relationships? do i think it is easy to find love? do i feel worthy of love? what would my ideal relationship be like? next to your old negative beliefs, you can write positive beliefs that you will implement in your life from now on.

work on yourself first. learn to love yourself, know yourself, work on your goals and dreams, and focus on your well-being and personal growth, but to like yourself not to attract anyone specific. when you love and value yourself people who also love themselves will come into your life and you won't have to worry about your old beliefs (mentioned in the previous point)

if you don't love or value yourself don't expect anyone to do it for you. your value doesn't depend on your social status or your beauty, don't listen to advice like that, value yourself for who you are and who you will share yourself with. you are already valuable for existing, you deserve love.

to have and create a healthy relationship with someone you have to create it with yourself first. don't use tricks to make someone like you, just be yourself, work on your best version. everything will come when you love yourself.

remember we are what we attract and people are also a reflection of us, of what we think, and even what we fear, that's why there are people who attract unfaithful partners again and again because they don't value themselves enough and think they "deserve it" because they haven't worked on their beliefs!

forgive the people who hurt you, it is the best way to free yourself and move on.

learn from past experiences so that they do not happen again, you can write a letter to your ex expressing all your feelings and then tear it up, this exercise will help you to free yourself and you will feel as if you have taken a burden off your shoulders.

visualize the kind of relationship you want to have. the things you would like to do, the places you would like to go. if you find it hard to visualize you can also think about it or write it down, the important thing is to feel the emotion.

don't react to what you don't like it creates more of it! if the person you like doesn't behave the way you want them to, ignore it! it's just a reflection of your old thoughts, focus on what you do want to happen. the more attention you pay to what's making you, the more similar experiences you will create!

don't tell everyone about your love relationship! because those people may have negative limiting beliefs about love and may make you doubt or feel bad. the problems with that person stay between the two of you, don't tell other people either. unless those people have the relationship you want and can guide you and help you. but don't seek advice from anyone. the answer always comes from us and you can find it by meditating or asking yourself.

and don't listen to those blogs that tell you what to do or not to do on a date, which places to go or not, follow your intuition, listen to the voice of your soul, how is your dream relationship? not every date should be in a fancy restaurant, maybe for you, there is another place more special and that doesn't mean that the guy doesn't like you! always be yourself (your best version of course!) to attract the similar to you and have a healthy relationship.

love is the highest vibration that exists, so there is no need to fear it, create your experiences, have your ideas about love, don't let yourself be contaminated by people who are still invaded by their limiting beliefs and think bad things about relationships or love.