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1. he will clean the house, the public spaces, the common areas, the work space (and anywhere a woman may tread) fully and with complete competence, so that it is hygienic and sanitary and nice to look at and pleasant to be around. he will do this without any expectation that a woman or any woman will assist him.

2. he will not consume any material classified as media that depicts women (fictional or real) in positions (sexual or not) of humiliation, torture, bodily harm, pain, torment, dehumanization, commodification, or death, which have been made for the express purpose to tantalize, titillate, or arouse an audience of men, and he will not masturbate to the thought of such media.

3. he will expect no children, no marriage, no servitude or attention from any woman, and will not expect any woman to forego her own health and safety to uplift his quest for legacy and import; nor will he expect her to prioritize him and his goals, his desires, or needs over her or another woman’s. rather he will, when possible, prioritize her own self-fulfillment and self-actualization without her asking.

4. he will not rape.

5. he will kill rapists. he will not punish a woman who kills a rapist, but indeed he will try his best to spare her the pain by killing the rapist for her. when a woman kills a rapist, he will aid in uplifting the woman in the community in announcing and celebrating her good deed. he will expect no same approval and distinction and will do his work quietly and unassumingly. He will find no pleasure in the act and expect no reward, not least which from the rapist’s victims.

6. he will speak when spoken to by a woman, and he will do so in a manner of utmost respect. he will otherwise cast his eyes down as to prevent her discomfort, and make no act or sound to gain her attention. he will be appreciative for any attention a woman deigns to give him, and he will not expect any attention further than she gives.

7. he will disown any god, all gods, and take no interest in the pursuit of godliness. the matters of theology will only be discussed, known, and understood by women, and he will have no desire taking part. he will not listen; he will not concern himself. he will not argue with a woman about the affairs of gods and spirituality, up to and including god's lack of existence. he will understand that he has no valuable insight regardless of his agreement in such matters.

8. he will labor graciously to provide a world that fosters the health and imagination of women, with no expectations for his own rewards.

9. he will not wage war; he will not fight in a war.

take on weekly or monthly tasks, and think it’s equal to their wives daily tasks (even when wives also have weekly and monthly tasks)

take on tasks that require very little time or hard labor, like mowing the lawn.

take on a “project” that could be fixed by a professional, and work on it little by little but never really finish

create chores for their children, i.e. delegate rather than doing

do housework only in tandem, i.e. never on their own or without help.

volunteer on their own for some disliked task. For example, cleaning the toilets without asking. unfortunately, this tends to be seen as very loving and exceptional. Often it will be used as an excuse not to do anything else

enthusiastically volunteer to do things often, then conveniently “forget”, “make plans”, or have some sort of weird parameter to get started. When wife or child does it instead, claim they were going to do it, really!

pick a jurisdiction they already enjoy, like “take care of dog” or “the yard”

do something really badly, so that someone else has to do it for them anyway afterwards

“tidy up” a mess they made

pick up or organize clutter, however the often stressful, emotional, and time consuming task of de-cluttering is left undone or for someone else

meticulous keep clean a space that is only theirs, i.e. their study, their garage.

create tasks that aren’t needed, like “organize the toolbox” or “rearrange the bookshelf”

do tasks that require prep work that their wives will do for them (i.e. grilling the food, but not planning, purchasing, seasoning or preparing the sides)

take control of “finances” but do very little, perhaps the taxes. this is also used as a way to control their wives often

use their time with their children to play or dole out discipline/lessons, but very little time on feeding/bathing/dressing or organizing their lives. this is also away men can create a “fun parent/mean parent” dynamic

make lists of what needs to get done, discuss what needs to get done with their wives, act very invested in the housework, take on a “manager” role in the housework, but do very little of it

tell wives that what little is done in the house, by either of them, is “enough” and that he “doesn’t care” what the house looks like (this is a l i e). i.e. doing little and then making an emotional appeal that it’s fine, co-opting the emotional labor his wife does for him, but actually it’s very manipulative

getting involved with children’s after school activities, i.e. being a coach, organizing a concert, etc. often a thing he already enjoys. often does very little of the organizing/plan making. often makes little effort to create time for his wife’s personal interests