Do you need mobility aids or assistive devices? Your f/o(s) are happy to learn about how they work, help you research any equipment you might need, help you get used to a new cane or chair or crutch if you’re not accustomed to using it. They’ll also remind you that you don’t have to “push through” or wait til you’re in a bad flare-up to use these tools if you might not need them all the time. You deserve to help yourself!

Do you get flare-ups where your symptoms or pain levels are worse than normal, or it’s harder to manage every day tasks? They’re not going to judge you. What do you need help with? They’re happy to help with cleaning, dishes, food, making sure you have clean clothes and can get washed up. If you struggle with hygiene or self-care on some of these days, they understand and they know it’s hard. They’re proud of you for telling them and allowing them to help.