hey guys i think calling me an Actual Abuse Enabler because i don’t have the energy (as a grooming victim) to involve myself in, talk about, or see a highly triggering situation for me when i’ve been open about how my mental health has already been horrendous, and was actively being sexually harassed and spammed with porn by strangers under one day in, is kind of a wild accusation.
i’m not the ceo of sparklecare or involved in the comic at all! i’m just a Guy drawing cartoon animals on tumblr by request. calling someone an abuse enabler is a serious accusation that can follow someone for life and words have meanings. thanks! (i do appreciate saying to block instead of harassing me tho! seconding that!)
someone went through the wayback machine to get my main blog and post it in the notes. Sigh. full post underneath for full disclosure, so it’s clear i’m not cropping out information. calling an open grooming victim an Abuse Enabler for not wanting to retraumatize himself more is bonkers. can we have a little critical thinking here. this is also, quite obviously, from a person that does not know me, because i interact with maybe three people on tumblr max and two are from my main.
i hear you as another grooming victim, i understand not wanting to expose yourself to harmful material that may lead to reopening wounds. i was unaware of this information pior and wish you the best in this regard. i used poor word choice in my post and i take accountability for my actions. my point was to say, creating art of Kittycorns OC's while bun is allegedly in contact with groomers is a form of enabling. victims of said groomers have come out with their statements about how they feel about audiences creating art for someone who is friends with their perpetrators.
i do formally apologize for the actions of the unwanted attention my post has brought that led to your blog being dug up. it was not my intention to bring any sort of harassment or violation of privacy.
“i was unaware of this information” you could have reached out to me. this could have been a dm instead of immediately taking every single word in the worst possible faith, and making a public callout that labels me as an abuse enabler oh my god. you didn’t delete the link to my main in the replies until i made a post specifically calling this out. i should have to out myself as a victim of an incredibly serious life-defining trauma to have my boundaries respected. nobody should, and it’s disgusting how much that’s normalized. do you understand how that puts people in real danger.
you could have reached out to me! you could have asked. my dms are open. my asks are open. the fact that nobody even told me or asked before blocking me and labeling me an enabler and i had to quite literally find out myself because i didn’t know why reblogs of my art had vanished and long-time mutuals had blocked me. do you understand how that feels. your post about me is still up, at the moment i type this.
you made wild assumptions, took every single thing i said in the worst possible faith, and did not even bother to fact-check the tiniest bit. how did you not think labeling people at random with serious terms is 1. an okay thing to do in any way 2. watering down the actual meanings of those words. this entire situation in general is not a game, and has never been a game, despite how many people are treating it as such, which is equally as sickening. people are not your toys to play with and hit until they break. we’re both lucky i’ve healed enough that i feel comfortable speaking publicly about it. most victims are exceptions. you are lucky i’m away from the perpetrator. this should not be normal for anybody, no matter what.
i make and have always made art for myself, first and foremost. i have always encouraged people to block me if they do not want to see my art. you know what you could have said? “this user is still drawing sparklecare art. please block if that upsets or triggers you.” hell, i literally said that in my pinned post, the first thing you see on my blog! to block me if it upsets you! you can scroll up and see verbatim what you chose to do instead. i stress, again, your callout post is still actively up. unedited, on top of that. and the only apology i got is incredibly vague.
i am absolutely sick to death of how i am not an exception here, too. the way this fandom especially treats victims as toys to push and prod at until they break in the name of ‘Protecting Victims’ is absolutely vile. how is the “poor word choice” the only thing you’re taking accountability for, and not the fact that you actively accused me of enabling groomers. this is not, and has never been, about protecting victims. this is creating more.
TL;DR: what happened to hi how are you. also talk to people or think a tiny bit before spreading incredibly serious assumptions as truth. do your own research before blindly believing everything someone says on the internet, especially when it’s in bad faith. critical thinking! it’s good for you. life is complicated and nothing is black and white. yappatron 5000 out i have to go to work now 👋
i dont mean this in a way to brush you off, but i'm genuinely not sure what you're talking about when you say a link to your blog got posted and i didn't delete it until late. your blog username was posted under my comment section and i asked the author to delete it almost right away after it got posted, before you made your first statement. i was unaware of this link that was posted, but like i said before, i'm sorry for bringing unwanted attention. i'm not sure if people sending you porn was because of me but i'm also sorry for that, i dont advocate for the behavior my post has brought upon you.
i made the assumption that the problem would be brushed off if it was brought up, seeing how the situation was referred to as "drama" and how adamant you were about not having it brought up. i shouldn't have assumed your intentions and immediately jumped to making a post, and i do apologize for that. i apologize for putting you in danger and framing you as a groomer enabler.
i didn't mean for my apology to be vague, thats genuinely how i talk and word things. my responses to you are sincere, and i'm sorry thats not how they come off.
alright. thank you for the apology, i genuinely appreciate that. i’m leaving this here, because all’s said and what’s done is done. but please, please, both to you and anybody who reads this, if you have a problem with someone and you’re thinking of making a callout, reach out to them first. talk to them. if you’re not comfortable, reach out through someone else, or through a proxy.
even if you think they won’t listen, even if you think you’ll be brushed off, making a public callout should never be the first resort, and can do far more harm than good. especially as you can see by the interactions, far more people have seen the initial callout than my response, and that’s how it usually is - it’s so much easier to tear down than to build back up. it’s still genuinely disturbing that nobody even tried to contact me, and i would have had no idea what was being said about me if i didn’t go looking myself, and there never would have been any corrections. i hate that this is still so so common, in all fandoms, but especially here.
to clear up two things - the url to my main blog was in the notes when i first made my post about all of this, i saw you said not to harass and that you didn’t post my main for a reason and i appreciate that! and i see it’s deleted now. i guess my biggest issue is how many people just. accept everything they read, blindly. and once the subject being talked about is The Enemy, they no longer deserve to be treated like a human being. zero nuance. i don’t know, i’m just so, so tired.
the porn and sexual harassment wasn’t your fault, it happened within a day of the original situation, and that’s a big reason why i was (and still am, god willing) so firm on staying out of it, and not immersing myself more in a deeply upsetting situation. i 100% knew anything and everything i say will be take in the worst faith, as seen here (again, thank you for apologizing) and i do not have the energy to do, gestures, this. i don’t know, man. be kind to each other and try to give other people grace. it’s rough out here














