If you’re desperate for love, you’ll convince yourself to overlook red flags. You’ll excuse bad behavior & minimize your own needs just to have someone. When deep down, you know you’re settling. That’s what desperation does, it tricks you into believing crumbs are a feast
But when you’ve built a life you actually like & you’ve invested in yourself, created routines, friendships, passions and a sense of self worth, you’re no longer choosing out of lack. You’re choosing from a place of strength and clarity. You can actually look at a partner and ask yourself if they add peace, happiness and depth to the life you already love or if they take away from it
If you’re not afraid of being alone, you’re not rushing into situations that drain you. It means you won’t tolerate people who can’t meet you where you are. And it means the love you do accept will be real not just a bandage for loneliness
Build your life first. Make it so good that anyone who wants to be with you has to be a true addition, not a replacement for your own happiness
