Abusive men pave the way for lazy men to get wives and girlfirends.
Lemme clarify, how many times have you heard your overworked female friends and relatives say “Yeah, Jerry drinks beer every evening after work while I cook dinner and clean up after everyone and does the bare minimum to help me raise the kids but he’s such a nice guy. He’s never beat me in my life. I couldn’t ask for a better guy in my life.”
Like no, Sally, your husband is a common stone among turds and you know it.
I try to explain this conceptually to people as a thing that happens not saying that this is good but it’s a thing that happens.
This is what male privilege is and how all men benefit from it.
This is why you are not exempt from statements about “all men” even if you are overall good.
You benefit from the bar constantly being lowered by systemic issues within the gender.
The expectations on you are always lower than they should because “at least you’re not X”.
That…is the best response I’ve seen to the “not all men” thing. Thank you.
Yeah, this post reminded me of this bit from a talk by Lundy Bancroft
#if you’ve never worked with older people you can’t realise how many women are just living like this#they work all week and then go home and do nothing except cook and clean and that’s fine with them#their husband does fuck all and if they get really drunk at the office Christmas party they’ll tell you how much they hate him#but most of the time he’s nice enough and the kids like him bc he’ll take them for ice cream so could you really do better @cloud-frost
