Perfectly Imperfect.

sexualising fat bodies doesn't fix the problem

how is that gonna help fat children being bullied. how is that gonna help people being treated like shit at work. how does that help people who's medical needs aren't being met because their doctors can't see past their weight.

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As cliché as it sounds, self-love is required. You aren’t ready for a relationship if you just want to be in one in order to feel “whole.” We were told that our future partner is one who “completes” us, but not in the sense that we feel nothing when we are without them. A partner is supposed to help bring out the best we can be—not do all the work.

2. Start with friendship.

The key to a good relationship is obviously friendship. Is he interesting to talk to? Could you truly be yourself around him? Or are you just in it for the butterflies and lovey-dovey feelings? If that’s the case, then you might just be lusting over him. Or it may be infatuation.

3. Observe his work ethic.

If he’s still in school: I don’t want you to judge him by his grades, but I want you to see if he is at least trying to do his best with academics. Is he passing in his homework? Does he cut class? Do you know if he cooperates in group projects? Knowing these simple factors may tell a lot about his outlook on work itself—how he would look at his job in the future. After all, old habits follow you until you change them.

If he already has a job: How does he feel about going to work? Is he striving? Or is he doing it just because he has to?

4. Be aware of the type of people he purposely surrounds himself with.

We all know the saying, “Birds of a feather flock together.” We also have to admit that it is pretty accurate. What is his group of friends like? Does he even have a group of friends? How does he act when he’s around them? Can you imagine yourself hanging out with his type of crowd?

5. See if you could accept his hobbies and interests.

Respect is the key. If you could respect what he is into—unless it is illegal—then your relationship might flourish smoothly. If you can’t accept him now, what more in the future? You can’t just force him to “unlike” something. Changing him isn’t a form of love; acceptance is. Well, unless you are “changing him for the better”; but be careful—you may be the only one who thinks it’s for the better.