No longer interested

I was recently traveling and on my way back to U.S. my plane was delayed for almost 4 hours. There I was,at a VIP lounge, bored out of my mind and dozing off, when I got tapped on the shoulder by this beautiful older woman. She looked like she was in her mid to late 40s, exotic looking (darker skinned, brunette, greenish eyes) and a totally smoking body. She told me that I looked like a Moroccan guy she knew when she was younger(I am not Moroccan by any means)..;) After exchanging a few pleasantries and our travel histories, she started flirting with me big time… It’s not an extraordinary thing for me to be approached like this, but I have never been approached by someone who was my age or older. Well not never, but it’s been awhile….

I get asked all the time whats the difference between hiring a call girl vs. having a sugar baby…  I am not an expert…  but Many people are quick to label the Sugar lifestyle choice as prostitution, but there are many differences between this lifestyle and the oldest profession. High-end or not, a call girl is not an interchangeable word for a Sugar Baby. Here are four reasons why:

1.  A Relationship vs A Transaction 

A call girl and a client have a transactional relationship. They meet, exchange funds, and participate in some sort of physical act and part ways. Typically, this is a one time occurrence. A job. There is no relationship, and no possibility for a relationship. And that is the key difference really:Relationship.  Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies have on-going relationships, not transactions. More often than not, a Sugar relationship will resemble that of a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. There are real connections and real possibilities at romance, something that is not in the realm of possibility with an escort or prostitute. Just because a relationship doesn’t follow the traditional rules of courtship, doesn’t mean it isn’t valid. It also doesn’t mean it’s illegal. Personally, I do sometimes prefer a “hired hand” to a relationship, but most times I want someone to talk to, not someone that “watches that clock”…

2. Being a Sugar Baby vs Being a Call Girl

Sugar is a lifestyle choice, not a profession. A sugar baby is a woman who wants to date financially secure men who can provide her with the lifestyle she desires. She’s selective about who she dates; a call girl isn’t picky about who she takes on as a client. The risks involved with prostitution are countless, and include exposure to crime, abuse, sexually transmitted diseases and theft of service. Many Call Girls are also subject to physical and emotional abuse, especially when involved with a pimp. And in Sugar, sex is never a requirement, only an aspiration.

3. Dating a Sugar Baby vs Ordering a Prostitute

A Sugar Daddy is generous, and wants to see their partner succeed. When two people are involved in a mutually beneficial relationship, they respect and value one another’s time. Sugar relationships can turn into long term serious relationships. Call Girls are paid to perform a service, while Sugar Babies sometimes receive funds as an added benefit of dating a generous man. A john doesn’t want a hooker to stick around, and a Sugar Daddy doesn’t want his Sugar Baby to leave. While an escort might have a sordid sexual history, a Sugar relationship is often monogamous-”ish”…lol   At least thats what SD’s think…

4. Quality vs Quantity

Disclaimer : This is my personal experience— exaggerated to the max:

1. A CAUCASIAN SB:

First date: You get to kiss her goodnight. Second date: You get to grope all over and make out. Third date: You get to have sex but only in the missionary position, while she cries and calls herself a “bad girl”.

2. IRISH SB:

First Date: You both get blind drunk and have sex. Second Date: You both get blind drunk and have sex. 1 year Anniversary: You both get blind drunk and have sex.

3. ITALIAN SB:

First Date: You take her to a play and an expensive restaurant. Second Date: You meet her parents and her Mom makes spaghetti & meatballs. Third Date: You have sex, she wants to marry you & insists on a 3 carat ring. 5th Anniversary: You already have 5 kids together & hate the thought of having sex. 6th Anniversary: You find yourself a girlfriend.

4. JEWISH SB:

First Date: You get dynamite head. Second Date: You get more great head. Third Date: You tell her you’ll marry her and never get head again.

5. POLISH SB:

First Date: You go to pick her up, and she isn’t home. She gave you the wrong address. Second Date: You decide to meet at a restaurant. She gets lost getting to the restaurant and then again going home. Third Date: She’s pregnant. She’s not sure if its yours, but you know she couldn’t be pregnant by you because there was no intercourse…

6. ASIAN SB:

First date: You get to buy her an expensive dinner but nothing happens. Second date: You buy her an even more expensive dinner but nothing happens again. Third date: You finally wake up and realize this was the easiest lay of your life..;)

7. INDIAN SB:

First date: she talks about her parents the whole time. Second date: She talks about wanting to get married. Third date: Wedding night.

8. BLACK SB:

First Date: You get to buy her a real expensive dinner. Second Date: You get to buy her and her girlfriends a real expensive dinner and drinks. Third Date: You get to pay her rent, buy her a car and call her “your highness” or “my Nubian princess”. Tenth Date: You find out there are 5 other SDs like you and all of them are better than you.

9. LATIN SB:

1. Having sex is like playing bridge. If you don’t have a good partner, you’d better have a good hand. 2.War does not determine who is right - only who is left. 3. Men have two emotions: Hungry and Horny. If you see him without an erection, make him a sandwich (oldie but goodie) 4. Politicians and diapers have one thing in common. They should both be changed regularly, and for the same reason (always loved this one) 5. Women might be able to fake orgasms. But men can fake a whole relationship (sort of a warning..) 6. If sex is a pain in the ass, then you’re doing it wrong… lol 7. A bank is a place that will lend you money, if you can prove that you don’t need it. 8. Better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt. (This applies to some of the latest events in the SB community)…;) 9. Why do Americans choose from just two people to run for president and 50 for Miss America? 10. Never get into fights with ugly people, they have nothing to lose. (This is 100% correct and applies to all)

I was away for a week, somewhere warm and sunny…;).

One evening we ordered dinner to our room, we did not want to go anywhere after a very relaxing day. So, the waiter brings our food and says: “And will there be anything else, sir?” after setting out an elaborate dinner for two in our suite.

“No thank you.” I replied. “That will be all.”

As he turned to leave, he noticed a beautiful satin negligee on the bed. “Anything for your wife ?” he asked.

“Yeah! That’s a good idea.” He hears the voice of my “sugar friend” from the bathroom “Please bring up a postcard we can mail”…

This offers me $200 a visit so I’m automatically ready to say yes cause that’s my minimum(I know my worth relax), but as he proceeds to talk my eager attitude when to soggy shoes in the rain mood.

This man expected me to have my own place for him to come over to and he’d give me 200 per a meet. Now not only do I not know how frequent these visits would be, but I wouldn’t want your ass knowing where I live anyway. What gets me is that I mentioned on my profile I live in a dorm being as I’m a college student. This guy is also asking for me to go on a diet since I weigh too much..I AM ALL BUT 117 lbs!!! What do I look like starving myself for some out of shape mediocre white man?