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Sisssssss, let’s have this discussion!!

I hate talking about this because there’s always some “stop looking for validation from men” headass in the replies. Like ma, shut the fuck up. Lmao. We can include dating in colorism discourse without it being about validation. Treat dark skinned women like human beings. Damn. 

Dating as a dark skinned girl is a whole ENTIRE bitch. We’re supposed to be thankful for ANYTHING. Like wow, he wanted to ONLY fuck you? That’s awesome (especially if the man is attractive). Of course we can pull men, men who only want to fuck us. I had a guy tell me he like how dark pussy looks against his lightskinned dick…my nigga, whaaaaaaat?? He really didn’t understand why I was upset. He said dark bodies only look good in beds. I cannot make this shit up. I left and he apologized like 5 months after he said that shit and still didn’t understand why I was upset. 

There is no one on this Earth that can convince me that dating for lightskinned women and dark skinned women is the same. My friends are lightskinned and always telling me what standards I should set for men. Like, I can’t ask for what y’all ask for. I’m not sure if they get it but it’s facts. Black men go above and beyond for lightskinned women. I see it on campus all the time. Even some of the guys I follow on Snapchat. Only snapping the hands of dark skinned women they be fucking but putting the whole body of the lightskinned shorties. Zoomed in and everything. It’s an accomplishment for Black men to date lightskinned women especially if they’re broke or on the come up and it’s supposed to be a compliment when they want to fuck girls my complexion or darker. Me asking for a milkshake or Texas Melt from Waffle House is literally asking for too much. Lightskinned girls can look like ANYTHING and still get chosen, wined and dined. If you’re a dark skinned girl who’s chosen, especially to be seen in public, your body, brows, makeup and fit better be snatched. You got to have a college degree, have at least a 2012 BMW, your own spot and make around 60K at a minimum for niggas to even consider you pass the bedroom while they offer $200 sneakers and nothing more. 

Dark skinned men (some) are truly the plague. They be dogging dark skinned women. Always talking about they don’t want dark babies. Nigga, you was a dark baby. The fuck?? They treat lighskinned women like trophies. Like wow, the Black American Dream; dark man with a light woman. Lighter men definitely approach me more but sometimes I feel like they’re trying to prove their “Black” card. You know? But their whole family be the same color and he bring you home and his mother tell you smooth over the mash potatoes you too dark to stay in the family. Some Black and Latino families deadass teach their children from young ages to not bring dark people home as to not ruin their family photo. Craaaaaazy.