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And that type of entitled love can only be born from a dangerous mix of narcissism and low self-worth. If anything, his ego is born FROM his low self-worth. He invests time and money in his looks and body and make up and fashion sense because he thinks himself worthless without those. It's a compensation method. So the dedication to his outward personality grows and grows until it has inflamed his arrogance to a blistering degree.

But, at this stage (when low self-worth clashes with the reality that he has done everything he can to make himself desirable), the anger starts to show. "How dare they not love someone as rich and beautiful as me?" He is in denial because he doesn't want to accept that it's his personality that deters people away because He. Can't. Change. That.

And it infuriates him. That is something that's out of his control, which only feeds into his frustration. Humans have a natural, animalistic need for freedom, we need to have a semblance of control in our lives, and when that's taken away, dangerous coping mechanisms start to develop. When something like that (something that's innate like a personality) is out of Val's control, it externalises itself as a volatile need to control what he CAN. Unfortunately for everyone else, that happens to be his employees, including Angel Dust. That mix of:

1) Needing validation and to be worshipped,

2) Needing to be recognized for the services, protection and fame he has provided,

3) Needing a sense of control,

4) Needing that desperate urge for reassurance to be satisfied,

5) Needing to be loved,

-Creates an extremely dangerous environment. God forbid, any one of those is threatened now when Val has the means, opportunity and righteous fury (that he thinks is deserved since the person accosting him clearly doesn't recognize how great he is) to annihilate them and get rid of the problem. Which brings him back to square one. Constantly chasing what his soul yearns for but knows he will never achieve so instead he drowns himself in the love of his fans, in the blood staining his hands, in his anger and frustration at the world itself, in orgys and sex as a superficial substitute for love and closeness. He uses hedonism and violence to distract himself because he can't let himself stay with his thoughts alone for too long and look too closely at the unhappiness festering inside him.

His liberal attitude towards sexual orientation, gender identity, gender non-conformity, taboo kinks, violence and illegal behaviour and everything society deems degenerate, is a reflection of the ugliness (low self-worth) he knows is inside him. He accepts it, he embraces what others see as ugly because He. Wants. That. Treatment. Because He. Can't. Change. Who. He. Is. He wants someone to see how worthless the real him is and still accept him. It's a defence mechanism. Prideful, he beams his confidence against society in pure spite in a way he wants others to treat him and even positions himself as superior for it. He loses himself in the depravity, he takes his failure to self-actualize himself as a person in stride by fabricating this grand image of himself, he wants to appear as non-chalant to attract the right people and piss off the wrong people who would call him gross anyway. He wants others to see past the bravado and charm and FORGIVE the wicked truth: that deep down, he is simply unlovable.

It's why he latches onto Angel so fiersomely. Because it's not just an obsession. It's not just about love. Angel has something that highlights him above everyone else in Val's eyes: his crushing abandonment issues. Angel reflects all of Val's inner needs and desires and insecurities. As long as he has Angel close and malleable, then he has control and a twisted sense that his love is repaid. To Val, Angel's desperate need to be loved is like a TONIC. Not only does he see himself in Angel, but the relatability allows Valentino to read him like a book. Because he knows himself, hence he knows Angel. He knows what Angel wants and craves and thinks because it's what he does. The parallels we see between them (like the gold tooth, the sultry stares, the aggressive sexual advances, the throwing glass at people's heads (Husk and Vox) are not a coincidence. In animation, everything has a purpose.)

Val knows how to twist and manipulate those abandonment issues in his favour to ensure Angel won't leave him because he doesn't trust that Angel will love him as much as he loves Angel. So he needs a safety net. He needs to know he can control him so he CAN'T leave him, and there is that low self-worth EXUDING from his behaviour. Any time Angel fails to meet Val on the same level, Val lashes out because he feels cheated, because Angel is supposed to love him, because he sees himself in Angel and Angel SHOULDN'T be acting this way. Val wants the treatment he gives Angel; it's why he's so attracted to Vox (despite Vox not being a ten). Vox is the embodiment of power to Val. Vox's word is law. His judgment reigns supreme, and if Val has his approval and attention, then he's won. When he threw his little temper tantrum in ep 2, he did it precisely for that reason: to get Vox's attention. But, he wouldn't let himself be pampered for long, of course not. He still NEEDS. That. Control. Which is why he tore Vox down into such a mess by telling him of Alastor’s return because he wanted Vox to realize he wasn't better than Val.

It's all a game of love and control.

So, when Charlie invited herself into the studio Valentino blew up. It could not have gone worse. Charlie threatened every point mentioned before:

1) Needing validation and to be worshipped - Charlie not only undermined Valentino's authority, but she also didn't treat him with the respect Valentino thinks he's owed.

2) Needing to be recognized for the services, protection and fame he has provided - Valentino experienced the event as a betrayal. After everything he has done for Angel, THIS is how Angel chooses to repay him? By going behind his back and inviting someone else into that dynamic that Valentino feels vulnerable in. He took it personally, like Angel was set out to hurt him. ("To fuck with me?")

3) Needing a sense of control - Charlie completely shattered the illusion that Valentino has utter and complete control. He saw her as a spoiled princess that he has no influence over here to take the person he depends on away from him. The fact that she set his studio on fire didn't help with Val's indignity and anger which is why he was so pissed at Charlie too, not just Angel. ("Lucifer's little bitch" the language he uses for her is downright vile.)

4) Needing that desperate urge for reassurance to be satisfied - Valentino was humiliated then. Charlie painted him as someone who couldn't get his studio or whores under control. Angel embarrassed him just with the idea that he thought he could defy Val like this.

5) Needing to be loved - it was another confirmation that Angel wanted to get away from him so badly that he contracted a member of the royal family to help him. It was a painful reminder that he didn't love Valentino anymore...

Val managed to fix the first four by reminding Angel who his soul belongs to and giving him a beating to put him back in his place. But, the fifth one was the only one he couldn't fix.

And dare I say, Val absolutely feels jealousy towards Angel because in his mind, Angel is beautiful. He's cute and dumb (he's not), just like a pet Val has chosen to take care of and adore. And unlike the chihuahua, Val can't just kill Angel whenever Angel pisses him off ("you're lucky you make me money") The secret dangerous mafia side Angel hides (in favour of being appealing so that people will love him) only feeds into Val's ego more because Angel. Is. HIS. Val is smarter, he is more successful, he is taller and more charming and more attractive, so why does Angel get to experience everything Val wants and Val doesn't? The injustice of it causes those deep-rooted insecurities to act up and tear Angel's self-esteem down. It makes Val feel better to see Angel humbled and humiliated because it means Val has proven himself as superior and therefore Angel HAS to stay with him since it confirms that he will never find someone as awesome as Val (delusionssssss) and it also momentarily dissipates that low self-worth. He wants to ruin Angel's self-worth so he doesn't feel as alone in it, he wants to paint Angel as ruined and unlovable so that Angel too learns to depend on his looks, so that Angel gets a taste of what it feels like and how difficult Val has it that maybe he'll show some more appreciation. He needs to convince Angel and himself that Angel is just as evil deep inside no matter what the reality is so that a) Angel is just as miserable, b) Val can reassure himself that his unhappiness is not his fault and it's "just how this cruel world works."

The worst thing of all... is that it works.

As long as he makes Angel in his image, but keeps him firmly under his boot, Val has control. And if Angel didn't have the support system that recognizes him as a person who deserves love and kindness, then he would have ended up just like Val, bitter and petty and cruel and vengeful and corrupt and mind-numbingly insecure and just plain NASTY.

But now, Vox and Angel have grown tired of the sweet words he spills, knowing they would turn sour quickly when he doesn't get what he wants (what he thinks he DESERVES) in that never-ending cycle of "needs therapy but refuses to acknowledge there's anything wrong with him". The cycle has ran its course, throwing him into waters he doesn't know how to navigate. They don't appreciate him. They don't NEED him...

Above all, Valentino wants to be loved, but his low self-worth builds a fertile ground for all of these toxic coping mechanisms to flourish.

And doing everything in his limitless power to have it, but it keeps slipping from his grasp, will break him. No matter how much money he earns or how sexy his ass is, it's not enough to satiate that unquenchable itch for love and recognition. The frustration of chasing an unattainable goal builds a hatred in him for the whole world. He would much rather blame the world than stand in front of a mirror and blame himself because its easier to make everyone else the villain and himself the victim than it is to recognise that it's his fault he will never achieve what he longs for so wretchidly. It's their fault, NOT his. "He did everything he could to make himself worthy, so why doesn't he have that thing his soul aches for?" (not realizing he's distancing himself from it with every passing day as he spirals into those toxic coping mechanisms) And now as an Overlord he not only has full conviction of the belief that the world doesn't respect how fantastic he is, but he genuinely believes he is in the "divine right" to take his anger out on it for its "transgressions" towards him. He wants to punish the villain in his story. He wants to HURT them, his employees, Angel, Vox, Velvette, ANYONE. He wants to hurt the entire world to make himself feel better because he's hurting inside.