VelkynKarma

After almost a decade on this site, I found another Tumblr user in the wild. I stopped to tie my shoe with rainbow laces this morning outside the silversmith at Colonial Williamsburg, and I heard it.

“I like your shoelaces.”

Oh. Oh no.

I responded the only way I could. “Thanks.” And then I reluctantly added, “I stole them from the president…and if that makes sense to you, I’m very sorry.”

The poor man, in full Colonial dress, stared at me for a long moment. And then burst into laughter. And said, “I haven’t thought about that in YEARS and this has never happened to me before.”

Yeah. Me neither. Not until today.

You need to get as close to 50/50 as possible to win

Bayou Butcher

Turns out you can roll a 7 on a d6

This idea that we somehow have more sex negative people in our spaces than anyone else is just wrong and guess what?? It's aphobic! You saw a post made by someone who was being an asshole and tried to hide behind sex repulsion to do it? That person is an asshole, not our entire community!

Quit talking down to the sex repulsed community because of a few shitty posts!

Sex negativity: thinking that sex is inherently bad/shameful/dirty for everyone

Sex repulsion: being personally disgusted by the idea of sex

Sex aversion: being personally disgusted by the idea of sex when it has to do with yourself

Guess what, I'm sometimes sex-repulsed and sometimes sex-averse! But I'm never sex-negative.

Have all the crazy sex you want! Just please do the things to be safe, get tested, use condoms/birth control/whatever and feel free to talk about it with anyone for whom that's not a violation of their boundaries!

All I request is: leave me out of it. Don't imply that sex is something I might ever be interested in, don't talk to me about your sex life, and do your best to tag any mentions of sex ("#sex mention") so I can just filter them out and we can coexist peacefully.