VelkynKarma

This idea that we somehow have more sex negative people in our spaces than anyone else is just wrong and guess what?? It's aphobic! You saw a post made by someone who was being an asshole and tried to hide behind sex repulsion to do it? That person is an asshole, not our entire community!

Quit talking down to the sex repulsed community because of a few shitty posts!

Sex negativity: thinking that sex is inherently bad/shameful/dirty for everyone

Sex repulsion: being personally disgusted by the idea of sex

Sex aversion: being personally disgusted by the idea of sex when it has to do with yourself

Guess what, I'm sometimes sex-repulsed and sometimes sex-averse! But I'm never sex-negative.

Have all the crazy sex you want! Just please do the things to be safe, get tested, use condoms/birth control/whatever and feel free to talk about it with anyone for whom that's not a violation of their boundaries!

All I request is: leave me out of it. Don't imply that sex is something I might ever be interested in, don't talk to me about your sex life, and do your best to tag any mentions of sex ("#sex mention") so I can just filter them out and we can coexist peacefully.

Nah, fuck that, CRICKET BAT 🏏 🏏🏏🏏*SMACK*

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Second of all, I'm starting to understand why my incessant posting annoys some of you so much.

If you strike me down, I shall become more powerful than you can possibly imagine

The thing is, there’s no way to know where these people are coming from. In the before, when fandom was more in the corners we all knew about, you could search LJ or a message board or whatever social bookmarking site we were using. You could join the community and participate.

You could get a little dopamine hit by seeing someone tell their friends why they loved your story.

Anymore, those recs are hidden in discords, or in tiktoks or instagram slideshows that you can’t search for. They’re inaccessible, not discoverable unless you’re already there. You may never know why 27 people left kudos on an old story of yours, what they liked and found in your writing. You just get the thumbs up and a kinda lonely feeling, cause these could be your people. You could like them, maybe. You could be friends.

But you’ll never find out why they stopped by, or what people are saying about you behind your back, and that’s sad.

it’s not weird to love it and comment and leave kudos because the author will probably still see it someday and it will make them happy.

it’s not weird to like said author’s work so much that you want to go look for other fics from them.

it’s not weird to go through the authors profile and look for other fics from the ships you like (or maybe some that you’ll give a chance because you liked the author) and maybe bookmark them for later.

it’s not weird to read these other fics and like them too and comment on them because you actually like them and you want to let the author know.

it’s not weird to read fanfiction from 5, or 8, or 10 years ago and actually enjoy and engage with it because it’s perfectly normal to relate to something that’s less than a decade old!

let’s stop treating fanfiction like they’re instagram posts that stop being interesting in 24 hours! fanfiction is NOT social media, fanfiction is art!!! and art doesn’t get old in one day, one year, or even a decade!

Obviously, I disagreed with that and pointed out that Alastor tends to use that to intimidate or be scary. They then responded with what is in the screenshot below.

LATE HAPPY PRIDE!! (It took me so long to post this here, what)

This was actually fun to draw.

And yes, I do hc Alastor as aroace, ok?

Hellavua Dads! Hope the Hellaverse can crossover at some point, we'd love to see Lucifer and Blitz meet.

This was supposed to be a short doodle and spiraled into a full 13 page comic ahaha

This is something I never see people talking about and I've wanted to bring it up for a while.

There is a huge problem with aspec erasure and fandom as whole being so centered on shipping that it quite literally drives us out, but because some apsecs are okay with it, the rest of us are expected to shut our mouths and get over it — because of course, we're just being dramatic and policing everyone's fun!

No, a percentage of the aspec community that doesn't care if you ignore and erase bold stripes, repulsed, and non-partnering (hell, even favorable and gray sometimes!) aspecs doesn't mean that continuing to do so isn't aphobia, and I'm not about to sugar coat this.

Fandom as a whole is incredibly aphobic.

From the amatonormativity to aspecs being called prudes and fun-police for the crime of wanted to be respected the same way any other orientation is, fandom is so aphobic we are quite literally driven out.

Shipping culture is heavily upheld by allonormativity and amatonormativity and I'm sick if pretending it's not. Does that mean it should be abolished? No! Because there's a difference between shipping two (or more) characters because you want to explore how they'd navigate a romantic or sexual dynamic and shipping them because you can't comprehend a relationship that isn't romance; and 90% of shipping I see is the latter!

I've seen fandoms literally create petitions to change an aspecs orientation, I've seen fandoms insist a character that was directly confirmed to be aro actually isn't because it wasn't said on screen, I've seen fandoms say that if a character was confirmed to be aspec it'd be had representation and they'd drop the fandom entire.

Consider if any of these things happened to a gay character! Could imagine the backlash?? If someone took a lesbian and said "let's have a petition to make them straight!" If someone took a gay man and said "listen, I know it's hevaily implied, indirectly confirmed, and outright stated by the person who acts them, but it doesn't count! They didn't say it on screen so I'm gonna ship them with a woman!" If someone said "I will leave this fandom if this character is confirmed to be bi!"???

Suddenly it sounds much worse, doesn't it?

And I'm genuinely glad that some aspecs are umbothered by this because it fucking sucks. And if it doesn't affect them, I'm glad they don't have to deal with the frustration and isolation. There are plenty of aspecs who very clearly only side with shipping culture and fandom to make themselves more appealing to allos, and that's a whole problem in and of itself.

But that does not mean the rest of us are okay with it, and it does not erase the blatant aphobia that is tied into the roots of fandom. It does not make it okay to step over and ignore us when we tell you you're treating us like shit.

And what's this whole rant gonna do? Nothing! Because allos don't listen to us! Fandom doesn't like us! Shipping culture fucking hates us! Because it's all built on amatonormstivity and people really don't like hearing that!

My issue is pretty much never with an individual engaging in a ship or whatever, but rather in the double standard of how aspec identities are treated compared to any other identities, and the general prevailing attitudes.

Amatonormativity, compulsory sexuality, and general allonormativity run rampant, both in fandoms and real life. I'm not telling anyone to stop shipping. I'm not even telling them they have to always write out the intricacies of how a relationship with a aspec character might look different! All I want is for people to consider how amatonormativity/compulsory sexuality/allonormativity impacts how they are choosing to engage with things, consider looking at the nuances of aspec relationships, and acknowledge when they are writing characters OOC (because writing, say, a character who is strongly implied (or even confirmed!) to be apothisexual as sex-favorable is OOC). It's fine to mess around in fanon! Like, some people might not like it, but honestly I'm happy to just block the stuff I don't want to see.

But that doesn't work if people won't TAG THEIR STUFF PROPERLY!!!

If people would just tag this shit, I would be SO MUCH LESS ANGRY. But when I look in the specifically aro/ace/aroace tags for my favorite characters who are implied/confirmed aro/ace/aroace, ALL I SEE IS SHIPPING!!! Just stop that!!!