vamps

did you know avoidance only makes all of your problems worse. no one has ever discovered this before

I've suspected this for a long time but I usually try not to think about it

see the premise of "if you struggle brushing your teeth, just do it in the shower" relying on logic of "you might struggle with teeth but surely you shower every day right? right...?" is just so hilariously wrong it's asinine that it's one of the most popular such advice

look upon my sons and despair

does anyone know how to get what you want when you're the type of person who avoids everything

[Doesnt do it] [gets stressed] [gets scared thinking about doing it] [doesnt do it because it's scary] [keeps not doing it]

i have for a while been using stepping on somebody's toes as a metaphor for misgendering. and i genuinely think that it's kind of a good one.

if you give a grovelling begging apology after accidentally stepping on somebody's toes one time you're going to make the whole thing awkward, but not giving a quick "sorry" before moving on is still kind of rude.

sometimes you invent mind prisons for yourself for no good reason and youre like "i really like being in the mind prison" even though you dont actually like being in the mind prison