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They may get angry at you.

Thinking who does she think she is, thinking you’re “another person, you’re not the same”

But I am aware, these certain people can carry things, yet they never unlearn from it.

But when they continue it, and that is saddening itself,

They use their resources, on selfish positions, selfish opportunities, on selfish things promoting one self, getting things that are not needed, such as using it on alcohol, drugs, lavishing. and not meeting needs in communities.

When they choose a position, for an image, when that position is meant to serve communities.

They don’t steward that money to the community.

They also never unlearn violence.

And some of these people, will be your family members,

leaders, be your chiefs, or spiritual leaders

being sexual or physical abusers, the thing is nobody brings it up, the behaviour is just never brought up, and those abusers stay in their positions while the victim deals with the trauma, the isolation, of not being heard

That should not be happening.

and they get covered by other people just because they’re respected, or “known”. Or even “family.”

These people can be your own family members too.

They get too comfortable with them, and they compromise with abusers.

That they don’t believe the victim.

They bystand, and watch, and don’t do anything to address these harmful behaviours.

Violence is too normalized in communities, and within indigenous people.

Nobody can take away your authenticity, other than what they can only say. Whether you’re attacked verbally, that doesn’t and shouldn’t take away who you are.

Verbal abuse:

Those who suffered from verbal abuse don’t speak, and don’t feel safe speaking.

If they constantly faced patterns of verbal abuse.

This can look like, wanting to express needs, but refraining and hesitating

Wanting to talk, and express but choosing to stay silent.

If they were unheard, then they feel their words aren’t valuable.

When in reality it’s a response to poor treatment, and a lack of understanding, and being listened to.

If there were verbal abuse in the household

The individual might suffer from responses related to communication, to expressing needs, emotionally, and intellectually.

If there were only arguments when speaking,

walking on eggshells, then they minimize their voice, their tone around the said trigger.

This not only affects their communication styles,

Label them as “prideful, cocky, too much”

But really they’re the encouragers, the one that stands on their feet, the role models the world needs.

I have a huge love and appreciation to authenticity and embracing confidence in what they love doing and expression in other women.

That’s leadership, having a vision, bringing others together, structure, operating by humility, despite being attacked,

despite being opposed,

Thewizardliz kind of reflects society, a reflection of society itself, of women and how that would happen to almost anyone. That Her problems and situation aren’t any different than society’s.

There’s this misconception that masculine— like women will make through any man, which is what I think what was in the persona of Liz’s mindset.

But no, her persona was a shield, to mask herself in what she didn’t heal.

There’s never one answer to them, it’s COMPLEX leading the reader or watcher to use their critical thinking,

I like certain writers that make characters have even the audience project onto them in some way.

In what parents can carry and give in children; I’m going to trigger a lot by this message because it is meant to be triggering.

Don’t be insensitive, this post is meant to spread awareness on the impact of this so I chose being ‘transparent’ in this post today. If you choose trolling then your comments are instantly deleted,

My story. I’ve been through patterns I didn’t ask to be part in, I’ve been through words, actions that I didn’t want being done to me, we go to what is familiar to our nervous system, to our mind, especially in our communities, we carry things that we’re unlearning.

there’s many things I don’t want to Involve in this post, so I’m writing a gist of my story. Here’s one thing I realized about my family.

I was at church one day.

I’m not even going to get started on church as an indigenous person, but when she hated how we sang, how we did a certain way I realize both me and my sibling reacted differently,

My older sister reacted by feeling like she isn’t good enough, that she’s overly responsible for things to the point of her boundaries crossed.

Whereas I cried alone in the washroom, feeling shame, this is the moment when shame took over my mindset.

That’s when it started, it all started by that, by that one simple action, that a parent didn’t think or care twice of impact of a children’s mindset.

Our indigenous children and people BECOME their parents and their words. This is generational.

The subconscious behaviours your parents could give you, the abuse and how they live will only run generations to generations,

The trauma will pass on if someone doesn’t end the cycle.

Your parents, your lineage affects you more than you know.

People live their whole lives, without ever realizing something like this, people lose even their lives over not seeing the cycle their family lineage can put them in.

When people do social work with suicidal individuals, they never get to THE ROOT problem Especially in our indigenous people.

This is the cause of so many deaths in communities, It’s usually always by your grandparents, to your parents, to eventually you,

There just needs to be healing for it.

Look within, even sit in it. Don’t turn to temptations, quick fixes, as alcoholism, and addictions are prevalent and active in the communities.

This is when we encourage the youth and indigenous people to unlearn behaviours and mindsets.