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We’ll be there, Harry. We’ll go with you wherever you’re going.  

in the margins of this film, there is an extremely quiet but very overt storyline about the loneliness of being a second generation immigrant in a small town that doesn’t have a prominent diaspora community. In contrast to To All the Boys, for example, where we’re shown how the Covery sisters interact with their diaspora friends and other Korean diaspora families, and how having that community (and sharing that common history with someone) is an essential part of your social life and emotional wellbeing, Ellie and her father are more or less alone in a white, conservative town. 

As Ellie mentions, the closest Asian grocery store is 2 hours by bike, and to be separated from all assurance of your heritage and identity is an extremely specific kind of loneliness.  In this town, they will always be the Other, and Ellie is not only extremely disconnected from her peers and her classmates, but also from herself. She’s trying to grow up in the image of her father, because it’s the only connection she has to that part of her identity, and that’s kept her detached and self-isolated.

It is crushing, which is why seeing Ellie overcome that loneliness is an equally important part of her character arc. She learns to be herself, and her sexuality, but an equally big triumph is her growing out of her self-isolation. Her friendship with Paul, being accepted by her classmates, and her longing for Aster are all equal parts of her coming-of-age. 

To all my black followers and friends, stay safe.

Also, I would like to add that black lives have always mattered, will always matter.

It’s awful that we even have to say that because it should be a given. However, we need to say it loud and clear for the racists.