Working through the EDAs (and spn)

⁉️ happy pride month turns out I Saw The TV Glow is free to watch on youtube and has been for at least three months now and i did not know until just now

i need to get gender affirming surgery

I hate it when transmeds (and, lately, TRFs) say to (insufficiently binary or gender-conforming) transmascs that they "want all the upsides of manhood/masculinity but none of the downsides". Yes? Of course they do? Generally speaking, people want good things and don't want bad things? A trans man who is sad that he now has to deal with increased acne (for instance) is not failing at being a man; acne is factually irritating to deal with, and cis men express annoyance with it all the time. They just mysteriously get less shit for it than the trans man does. And all of that is not to mention that often what is meant by "downsides [of manhood]" is not necessarily "annoying side effects of testosterone", but "toxic masculinity"-- in which case, refusal to engage in toxic masculinity is straightforwardly morally correct, and it should be encouraged, especially by people who claim to be feminists.

I've missed another alternate meaning of "they want all the upsides of manhood/masculinity but none of the downsides", which is "he's mad that some people around him now treat him with suspicion and fear, when before, they didn't". And I maintain that it is perfectly reasonable and human to be saddened or annoyed by that. It is especially reasonable when "I dislike trans men and transmascs because they're (too) male, and thus they are dangerous and untrustworthy and incapable of understanding misogyny or feminism" is yet another line of reasoning added to the stack of reasons people give for why they're allowed to abandon and abuse transmascs. Ever noticed how everybody seems to have a reason for why transmascs are their enemies? Ever wonder why? Ever wonder what kind of toll that takes on a demographic?

I also find the whole idea that it is wrong to want only the "upsides" of a gender, and that you must buy the whole package deal (so-to-speak), to be pretty much antithetical to my whole idea of what gender should be. I have said the exact opposite before. "Picking and choosing the upsides of each gender" is what I do. I have yet to find a good reason why one shouldn't! Why shouldn't someone tailor their body to achieve all of the things they want? Why shouldn't someone express distaste at poor treatment or toxic societal standards or irritating side effects? Why should we accept the idea that poor treatment or toxic societal standards must be silently endured in order to become a member of one's gender? Will you next say that a cis woman is a fake woman if she hates her period and is a feminist? What an absurd sentiment.

tv from the mid 2000s was so good. if you can look past the everything

eventually New Who will become Middle Period Who

The problem with having OCs is that sometimes you wanna read about your little guy being in situations but unfortunately he is YOUR little guy and no one is gonna put him in that situation but you. Tragic.

yes i do ship those characters but i ship them in an infinitely more aroace way than you will ever be able to comprehend

they're not "dating" they're not "a couple" they're intrinsically connected and intertwined with each other for eternity. they're bound together like the stars. get with the program

This is what I imagine some of my mutuals look like

The four most interesting parts of time loop are when the person kills themselves for the first time, when they kill someone else for the first time (in a fuck around kind of way, this doesn't count if they already were killing people outside of the loop), how they break the loop, and the weeks afterward where they loose their fucking minds in an entirely different, significantly more damaging to the world around them way. And yet I rarely see anything done with that last one. People leave time loops and are all happy go lucky 'oh boy'. Where's the grappling with people you know who will never know you? Where's the knowledge that the safety of the loop is gone, and you can't fix any mistakes you make? That's the good angst I want

i think one of the worst things the left wing internet ever did was push the idea that oppression is basically a virtue, and being oppressed is a sign of your morality. it has made it like…impossible for some of you to hold the idea that most people are privileged in some ways and oppressed in others. AND a lot of you seem to have it in your mind that terrible people cannot be oppressed, and that oppressed people cannot do terrible things, which is a dangerous rhetoric to hold imo.

Not only is it important so you don't get taken advantage of by terrible people wielding their oppressions as weapons, but also your convictions against oppression should not be contingent on the morality of the people suffering. Shitty people don't deserve to be oppressed either. Human rights are one of those things you only really understand and believe in if you see them as universal, not conditional.

sometimes being a fan of something means not wanting them to make any more of it