Trans Dad

Change is hard! Not only did I recently move to a new city, but I started a new job with a different schedule than I’m used to. I am inspired by all of your strength and perseverance through everything life has thrown at you. Thank you for being a source of strength for me!

Love always,

We are making good progress on a new week!

I just moved to a new city a few days ago—change is very scary! I saw a video on TikTok that had a phrase I liked a lot though: “let’s do it afraid.”

Keep your chin up, kiddo. We’re in this together!

Love always,

Another week has flown by! I am so proud of you for keeping your chin up and getting to the weekend. I hope you can take some time to rest!

Love always,

I am so grateful for your kindness and understanding. Life can be a lot! I am inspired by all of your strength and perseverance. And above all, I am so glad you are here.

I love you so much and am so excited to witness your bright future.

Love always,

It’s the start of a new week!

I have not been using Tumblr very often, and I am so very sorry for my absence. Regardless of the time between my posts, I hope that you know that you are all in my thoughts and in my heart every day.

No matter what is happening in the world, I hope you all continue to shine as bright as you always do. You inspire me each and every day!

Love ALWAYS,

If you're still here, I want to say that I really appreciated seeing your posts come across my blog. I just recently came back to tumblr myself and realized that you haven't posted in a year. If you're there, give a shout. I miss you.

Hi kiddo!

Your message truly means more than I will ever have words to express. I am so, so grateful you decided to reach out.

Life sure has a whole lot of twists and turns that none of us can predict! Everything in the world has been a lot for any one of us to handle, myself included. I am so fortunate to be able to pull upon the strength and tenacity of people like you to get through every day.

I don’t use tumblr much anymore, and on the rare occasions I do, I always come check my inbox. Messages like yours truly make my heart soar.

Even if I am not posting often, please never forget that you all are deeply engraved in my heart. I will forever count myself as extremely fortunate to have such kind, loving, hardworking, and incredibly strong kiddos in my life. It is, has been, and always will be the greatest honor of my life to be your dad.

I will turn on notifications from tumblr for a while if any of you need me or need a dad joke or a dad hug. Even as time goes by, even if we drift to and from this platform, know that you are and always will be a part of my heart.

Love ALWAYS,

It’s a new week. We can get through this, like we have gotten through everything this far.

I am so proud of you!

Love always,

Happy Tuesday!

I wanted to let you know that I am so proud of you. Life can be a lot! And just like the seasons, we change, too. And that’s okay! Whether you are beginning your journey of discovering who you are, or you are have been on this journey for a long time, I am proud of you and your resilience. Whether you are cis, trans, non-binary, straight, gay, anything, I am proud of you and happy to call you my kid.

Love always,

It’s the very end of Monday for me. I hope you had an excellent weekend and a great start to your week!

I had a very busy weekend with work, and I’m glad to take the time to check in with myself and with you.

Love always,

Just wanted to share some of my happiness.

Yesterday I went to get my first suit fitting and when I looked in the mirror I was amazed and so happy at what I was seeing!!

Wishing this happiness on all of my brothers and you as well :)

- Kiddo

Hey kiddo!

Thank you for sharing this wonderful moment with me! I am so excited and happy for you.

Love always,

I had a conversation with a bio family member recently that brought up a lot of questions and feelings I hadn’t thought about in a while. It’s very hard when your bio family doesn’t accept or understand your identity.

I want to remind myself and you, my dear kiddo, that family is more than blood. And your identity may shift and change or stay the same, and no matter what, you are valid and worthy of love and understanding. I am proud of you beyond words, and grateful that you are my kid.

Happy Wednesday. We are halfway through the week!

Love always,

I hope you had a relaxing weekend.

Before we get into this week, I want to remind you that you are loved, valued, and valid just as you are. And I am so, so proud to call you my kid.

Love always,

Today I am fortunate to be out in nature. I hope you can do something this weekend that brings you joy!

You deserve joy.

Love always,

Happy Wednesday! We are halfway through the week! I am proud of your perseverance.

Love always,

Life has a funny way of changing over time. I want to remind you that it doesn’t matter if your identity changes once, twice, or a thousand times. No matter what, your identity is valid and you are deserving of love.

Love always,

I'm rather old for a baby trans, but I only figured out recently in my 30s that I'm a dude. I found a therapist who'll help me get on T next year and I definitely want top surgery, I'm also out to most people by now.

I'm sure this is the right thing, but I still have moments and days of "omg help what am I doing?" I also dread the whole paperwork and trying to convince my health insurance that I'm "trans enough" and all those other things that I'll have to deal with. I'm pretty sure the past months have been the most stressful of my life.

I know I probably just have to be patient, calm down and just keep going with baby steps instead of being overwhelmed with the entirety of the process, but maybe you have some words of encouragement or even some helpful tips how to deal with all this?

Thank you :)

Hey son!

I am so excited for you! I am proud of your bravery in finding out who you are and starting to take the steps on this journey.

Doubt is natural! Talk with your therapist about it, that helped me a lot early on. With everything else, I suggest the idea of a “three foot world.”

I read a book a while ago in which the author talked about the idea that, physically, (if you were to not move) you can only really interact with what’s about three feet around you. The idea is to apply that concept to everything; focus on what you can impact right now, what’s metaphorically three feet around you. The insurance and name changes and stuff will come later. They’re not within three feet yet!

The whole process is very overwhelming. Take deep breaths and take baby steps. You have your whole life ahead of you to figure the rest out.

I am so, so proud of you, and so excited for you to start this journey. And I will be with you every step of the way!

Love always,

The last few days have been a little rough for me, I won’t lie. Life throws a lot of curveballs! It can be hard to remember to keep my head up.

Through it all, I am encouraged by your strength and bravery in discovering who you are and making it through the rough days. Thank you for inspiring me!

I hope your week starts off as well! We will get through what life throws at us. I’ve always got your back!

Love always,