Helping Hands From One Trans Guy To Another

Dating is hard 😅

Now there are lots of guys that like or prefer to bind. This website is honestly the perfect place to buy a binder from, yes they may be a little costly but they are the most comfortable trust me. And it’s your own personal preference if you want to use a half binder or a full binder. Myself I bought a full binder but I prefer a half binder as it always seems to ride up on me and I have to keep tucking it into my pants. Binding is very restricting so be sure to give yourself a break. The best time is at night when your not out in public or anything, your at home and your comfortable you can put on a baggy shirt and just be comfortable. There is also the option of using trans tape or kt tape (you can buy this from sport check it’s just black tape) and you can bind using that. However the cons of using tape is you sometimes overtime peel off your own skin and you get a rash. Especially with trans tape (you can orde online) you have to use a lot of oil to get it off but the pros of trans tape is you can keep it on for up to a week depending on what your doing if you exercise a lot I’d say keep it on for two days max. I think I pretty much touched on everything about binding but if you have any other questions feel free to ask :)

As you can tell I have a lot of acne and some guys get a lot of acne an it sucks I know but it can be maintained with a healthy diet and I also found that these two things help a lot! I use the triple action soap twice a day and apply persa gel 5 three times a day where needed and it seems to cut the edge off.

My facial hair before I shaved today. I think I let it grow for about two weeks.

6 months on T!

4 months on T!

3 1/2 month on T!

Legally Male! 

Just wanted to put this message out there! We are a new advice blog and want to help anyone who needs it.

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Hope you are all well

So I wanna let this be known this page is also for people who struggle with mental illnesses and alcohol and addiction problems as well. I’m gunna say a little about myself and hope it reaches those of you who feel like they have no one left to turn to. I know I felt that way growing up. I’ve been diagnosed with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder), ADHD, bipolar, major depression, major anxiety and PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). I also have really bad nerve pains that the doctors don’t know what to do about so I’m going to a pain clinic in December. I’m on 15 different medications at the moment and I’m trying to get off of some but right now they keep me semi stable. I go to a DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy) program every Thursday to help regulate my emotions and I’ve been doing so for about 9 months and man the shit actually works! I feel I’m finally in a good place in my life where I can put one step forward and this includes getting a job again as I’ve been on AISH for a while because of my mental health. But here’s my story; Ever since I was little I knew I was different. I was super shy and stand-offish towards other kids. I had really really bad social anxiety. I never really made any friends until I hit grade 3 where I met one of my closest friends (whom I’m still friends with now. She’s amazing!). People were drawn to me for some reason but I just never knew what to say to them or how to interact with people. I didn’t have the confidence within myself to open my mouth and speak my mind. I thought “oh they might think that’s stupid” or “they might not like you” so saying nothing at all made people just seem curious they didn’t not like me but they also didnt know me well enough to like me either. I always had self judgements going through my mind on a daily and I always thought people in crowds were staring at me and judging me. I had so much bottled up emotions in my mind it’s like I couldn’t stop thinking about my thinking and that’s when the self harm started coming in. I used to cut, bruise and do reckless shit because I just wanted to feel something or feel nothing at all. *TRIGGER WARNING* Reality struck though when my friend who sat right beside me in science class in grade 9 tried to hang himself but he was too skinny and lanky it failed and he was put on life support where later they had to pull the plug. It hit me hard seeing his family so broken up about him and I related to what he was going through so much that I decided it was time to tell my parents I needed help. That’s when I met my psychologist. She said things will get better like elevator floors you just take it one floor at a time. Luckily I didn’t have to go from one psychologist to another to find the one I matched with unlike some people have to. But my story doesn’t end there in fact it’s only the beginning. As I got older my depression got worse and worse I started drinking at the age of 14. I started drugs at the age of 16. My brother was the only one out of my family who knew I was on drugs. I had to be careful cause my dad was a police officer that worked in drug section with a police dog (funny eh?) but even my dad never noticed the signs. I stopped hard drugs when I turned 18/19. I continued to drink however. I was known as the life of the party. People always liked to get me drunk cause I was so funny and I did really stupid shit.

I’ve been hospitalized unwillingly and lied my way out for two months. I refused to let people help me. I felt like I didn’t deserve the help offered to me. I felt like I didn’t deserve love. I felt like I didn’t deserve life itself. *TRIGGER ALERT* I cut up my arm pretty bad one day in 2017 and had to get close to 50 stitches. Luckily I didn’t have to be hospitalized then surprisingly. I have been to rehab recently. I’m 61 days sober today actually. The hard thing about being sober at a young age is that you’re still in your party stage yknow? And you see all these people your age going out and having fun and getting drunk and your like what the hell? I wanna be doing that. But you know if you take that one drink you won’t be able to stop until you black out and pass out.

My mental health is something I struggle with everyday. I have made my mom cry begging me to give her a knife back. I have made my dad breakdown in the middle of a hospital because I nearly jumped out of a 110 km moving truck. I have made my brother cry because I have gotten so drunk that I was puking up blood and he tried to take the bottle away and I wouldn’t let him. Mental health affects the people you care about too. And if you feel you have no one that cares about you, well you’re dead wrong cause I care about you. You mean something to me. There’s lots I haven’t included in this long as story of mine. But if anyone ever needs to talk please I’m begging you before you do anything to yourself stop and think about everything I said and contact myself or Micah. We would be happy to guide you through your rough patch. Stay strong guys. And if no one has said this to you today I love you.

My version of a trans symbol that I drew up that I really wanna get tattooed someday!

This incision is higher on the chest, and therefore more consistent with the border of the chest muscle. But here’s the kicker, it requires the final areola to be in line with the scar, which is not a natural proportion between the areola and the shadow of the muscle, which the scar is trying to mimic. So because of this, fishmouth is rarely used except in the cases of non-binary trans masculine patients. 

This incision is also an option for guys with larger chests and extra skin. This procedure keeps the nipple and areola attached to original body tissue, avoiding the need for a nipple graft. Even though the surgeon has good control over breast volume, there is a good chance that nipple sensation will be significantly gone or need to recover from being numb. however advantages include avoiding the nipple graft, which therefore lowers the risk of nipple loss and having a nipple and areola that is more full in appearance. But cons are the presence of an additional vertical incision, and it cannot achieve the same level of flatness as with the double incision. This is because of the tissue left behind to supply blood to the nipple area.

A double incision is made for guys who have larger chests or (hate using this word) but breasts that sag a bit. A horizontal or U-shaped incision is made on the lower border of the chest muscle. The skin is peeled back so that the chest and fatty tissue can be removed. Then another incision is made to remove the nipple. Both nipples are resized, if necessary and then replaced as a free nipple graft into a position that will give the chest a more male looking appearance. If your breast are shaped in that your nipples are lower that the fold beneath the breasts, then you will most likely get the double incision or an inverted T (anchor) incision.

A periareolar incision is ideal for guys with more average/medium sized chests and good skin elasticity. A circular incision is made all the way around the areola to remove breast tissue. A slightly larger ring incision is then made to remove excess skin (unlike the keyhole surgery). The skin is pulled taut toward the center and the nipple is reattached. Basically its like pulling a drawstring bag closed. Another vertical incision that extends below the areola may also be necessary to get any additional excess skin if you have any.