Shit your parents should know?? as told by someone who has never had kids but is still right on the fuckinâ dime.
When youâre a parent you are no longer the center of your world. Your kid is the center of your world. And kids are not always outwardly grateful. Youâre the adult, even when your kids reach 18. When your kids are 18 they are not totally the middle of your world anymore, yes. But this doesnât mean you can just ignore them or treat them like a full blown adult. Usually they still need you. So be there. When they want to talk to you, drop your shit and listen up.
If your kid has a mental illness under no means does this mean that you understand just how they feel even if you have the same illness, that you are hurt more than them, that it is harder for YOU as a parent to watch your kid suffer than it is for your own fucking child to deal with it. again, sit down, shut up and listen to your kid.
dO YOU KNOW HOW MANY FUCKING PROBLEMS CAN BE EASED OR SOLVED WITH CLEAR FAMILY COMMUNICATION AND YOU SHUTTING YOUR MOUTH AND MAKING YOUR KID FEEL SAFE AND VALIDATED LIKE THEY CAN TELL YOU ANYTHING HOLY HELL ON FIRE THAT IS A LITTLE HUMAN BEING YOU ARE RAISING IN THIS WORLD BE A SAFE PLACE FOR THEM
Have patience and kindness. give it a fucking try. Your kid is going to react accordingly to HOW YOU TREAT THEM. If youâre brash and stern and ignore them and shit things like that your kid will either (this is two reactions of many): Be hurt and walk away or be hurt and get loud about it. so if you think your kid is being âsassy and annoyingâ use your fucking brain and ask YOURSELF FIRST: how did I treat my kid for them to react that way? (if your kid is honestly just being rude and unkind without a push from you you gotta talk to them about their attitude. Donât say âattitudeâ like some snooty mcHigher-than-thou asshole okay we hate that never be that parent. Ask them if there is something going on in their life that is making them frustrated. Instead of right off the bat condemning them, talk to them. Find out why they did the thing and then discipline them accordingly)
If you yell at your kid and they yell back gUESS WHO FUCKED UP? YOU. NOT YOUR KID. so apologize and lower your voice.
I canât believe I am teaching you how to apologize but here we go
HOW TO SAY âIâM SORRYâ
put down everything your doing and sit down with your kid
tell them âi apologizeâ or âiâm sorryâ THERE IS NO âiâm sorry butâ or âi apologize butâ
State what you are sorry for.
promise you will actively try YOUR VERY BEST to not do it again.
Iâm piss at computers so here we are at number one again
I CANâT BELIEVE HOW MANY PARENTS FUCK THIS UP??
WHAT GOES ON IN YOUR HEAD THAT SAYS
HEY WOW LOOK AT THIS AMAZING HUMAN I BROUGHT INTO THE WORLD
I AM GOING TO MAKE IT HURT AND CRY AND FEEL BEYOND SHIT
LIKE WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOUÂ ?!!
take some interest in their hobbies!! get excited about shit! If your kid is like âHEY WOW LOOK AT THIS COOL THING I LOVE A LOTâ be like âyooOOO WHAT COOL THING I BET ITâS AWESOME LETS CHECK IT OUT!!â
tell them that you care about them and SHOW IT with your actions.
thatâs it thatâs all I got right now
because Iâm not even a parent
but when I am someday I wonât forget this stuff
dededos
tangentwithtanner
romaincrisis
areudirty
andulkaphoto
