your strengths are harder to see than your weaknesses because the problems you're good at solving don't appear as problems, because you're so good at handling them before they become problems... unlike the relatively rare problem that becomes a crisis, which demands undue attention. it's sort of like a reverse survivorship bias. the problems that become noticed as problems, the moments where you notice your capacity has a gap, are only the ones that aren't cut off at the pass by your strength and capability, before they become problems. so if all you focus on is problems then all you'll see is your weaknesses. which isn't accurate
my mom once complimented me on how well I did something (wrote for a specific audience and purpose) and I was like “but there’s really only one way to word this request effectively and politely?” And she was like “yeah, but there’s a lot of WRONG ways to do it! And you didn’t do any of them!”
