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1) those are clearly euphemisms for being playboys--aka taking romantic/sexual love from women without meaningfully reciprocating

2) being "gentle with women" has literally caused at least two women to become homicidal. Now, it's not fair to blame Battler or Rudolph for the actions of Sayo or Kyrie. But rather, I think there's something about how Battler and Rudolph show this pattern of enjoying attention from women--both romantic and sexual--and they end up disregarding the other person's feelings in incredibly cruel ways.

And I want to point out I'm not putting Battler on the same level of Rudolph here. The only time we see Battler rizz up someone without intending to commit is Sayo when he's 12. And like. He's 12. We cannot expect him to have known what would have happened.

But there's this pattern, this echo of behavior. Battler hates his dad for how he treated his mom (cheating, immediately getting married after her death) but even though Battler does NOT want to be like his dad, he ends up treating the women in his life the same way anyway.

And speaking of echoes, there's that interesting scene with Shannon where he goes "lemme touch your boobies", clearly expecting her to say NO but... She does let him. Now, first, of course there's that continuation of "Battler/Rudolph enjoy women sexually without thinking of their feelings or boundaries". But also we see that Battler... Doesn't really want to touch her boobs? He's kind of freaked out that she's not stopping him. He's thankful to Jessica for stopping him. It's like how later, Natsuhi (autism queen) makes his joke about eating a lot fall flat. Battler sets up a joke ("I'm gonna touch your boobs") and he expects Shannon to go "kyaaaa~ nooo~" because that's the joke. That's how he expects people to react. But when they don't, when his conversation partner doesn't pick up what he's putting down, but he ends up fumbling awkwardly.

But he still made the joke. He hates his dad, but he wants to "be gentle with women" (like his dad). He hates his dad, but he still flirts with girls without thinking of their feelings (like his dad). He hates his dad, but his taste in women has specifically been molded by his dad's taste in women.

Battler hates his dad but he can't conceptualize being a man without emulating his father--in fact, he can't conceptualize it without imitating the very behavior he hates his father for.

Let's jump to Kinzo, because we can't talk about Battler parallels without Kinzo. Kinzo was a wife guy (except his "wife" was his mistress) but I wonder how "gentle" he really was with women. He claims that he and his actual wife had a loveless marriage but.. he had Rosa AFTER meeting Beatrice, so clearly they had love in the bedroom. Also, his wife was intensely jealous of Beatrice. She seemed earnestly heartbroken that her husband was having an affair. I don't doubt he didn't love her, but did his wife feel the same? Was she really just as uncaring as he was? And for non-wife examples of his "gentleness": Natsuhi was devoted to him. I don't think she felt romantic feelings towards him, but he clearly inspired some sort of positive feeling, despite his repeated cruelty to her. We don't see them interact much, but we do know he saw her with disdain. And yet, she is so loyal and loving that she would give anything and everything for him.

Just like his son and grandson, Kinzo exploits women's devotion to him without regard for their feelings or boundaries. Heck, even if you take his words at face value and agree that Beatrice asked him to kidnap her, that's still an insane thing to do. Beatrice and Beatrice 2 both become incredibly dependant on him, and he made no moves to correct that. He sat in his role of father/husband and took in their love without regard for them as people.

This next bit is going to make me sound insane, but, hear me out. We gotta talk about Beatrice's boobs here. Beatrice--not Sayo, the actual real Beatrice(s)--had big boobs. One of the first things Battler says when seeing her portrait for the first time is "who's the woman with the cow tits" (which. what a thing to say). And I want to point out that Battler specifically told Sayo he likes busty blondes because that's what is in his DAD's porno magazines. And sure, Rudolph doesn't seem picky... But out of all his girlfriends, he chose Kyrie? Even if she was pregnant, it's not like having a pregnant girlfriend stopped him from marrying someone else before. Further, both Sayo and Kyrie are incredibly intelligent... And so, it seems, was OG Beatrice. There is a lot made of Beatrice being an alchemist "CONSULTANT" who helped Kinzo grow his business. Yes, she got him the gold, but we were shown Beatrice to be someone very shrewd and business savvy. They are portrayed as partners in the business, not just lender and borrower.

I don't think this is meant to be a deep "OMG BEATRICE BOOBS SOLVES EVERYTHING" thing. But I do think we are supposed to make this connection. And yes, the boobs are important because it's specifically the sexual aspect. Battler's throwaway comment about sex--made by a 12 year old boy who has no idea what sex actually is--causes a thousand years of suffering to Sayo. Rudolph's sexual promiscuity causes Asumu and Kyrie years of heartbreak. Kinzo's sexual obsession towards Beatrice leads to what he does to Beatrice II.

Blonde, large breasts, smart. It's not just that Battler likes this type of woman, but Rudolph does too...and so does Kinzo. This is a continued repetition, a continued cycle of Ushiromiya men going after the same type of woman, resulting in tragedy, specifically BECAUSE of their romantic and sexual treatment of those women. Both Rudolph and Kinzo are both extreme examples of who Battler could become if he doesn't realize his sins in how he treated Sayo.