So apparently this fandom is nothing but drama lately, and that really sucks. I remember when back when the undertale fandom was nothing but love and acceptance, back when I genuinely thought it was the best fandom I’ve ever been in.
It still is one of the better fandoms, despite all this drama and nonsense, but that’s not what I want to talk about. I want to talk about the fact that–
BEING EXCLUSIVE DOES NOT MAKE YOU TOXIC.
Choosing to write/talk/interact with people you’re close with, people you know, people you’re comfortable around, does not make you a toxic person. What makes you a toxic person is when you start spreading rumours because people won’t roleplay with you, for their own personal reasons. We as humans will always, no matter who you’re talking about, prefer to interact with those we know over strangers; that’s just how it is. There’s nothing wrong with that, especially when it comes to something as simple and unimportant as roleplaying on tumblr.
If you’re exclusive, if you’re mutuals only, if you are putting your own comfort ahead of what other people think you should be doing; you aren’t a bad person. We’re all here to have fun, to relax and to get away from real life’s many trials, and for that no one should be judged or made to feel like garbage simply because being comfortable means saying no.
When did it become okay to attack people for saying no?
If it’s okay for people to say no to the following:
then why isn’t it okay to say no to writing with certain people? Why isn’t it okay to say no when someone asks you to roleplay, to check out their blog, to follow them, etc.? Writing is supposed to be an outlet, a way to express one’s self in a safe, and comfortable way. Instead people are being attacked and mistreated simply because they don’t want to do something. I’m sorry, I didn’t realise we were all in some terrible, high school drama movie where roleplayers are cornered in the bathroom and peer pressured to ‘smoke that wacky tabaccy’, or in this case, write with people they don’t want to.
IF YOU DON’T WANT TO ROLEPLAY WITH SOMEONE, THAT’S FINE.
If someone is trying to guilt you into writing with them, block them. If they behave in a rude or hostile manner when you politely decline being mutuals with them, block them. If someone is trying to make you feel bad for your own personal comfort, block them.
No one can make you do anything you don’t want to do here. No one can make you write with them, make you follow them, make you recommend their blog or check it out, nothing. You are in control of your blog, you are the one who decides who you do and do not write with. Don’t let a bunch of salty, jealous, lazy, cry babies ruin your fun. DO NOT CAVE UNDER THEIR PRESSURE.
Being exclusive/mutuals only does not make you toxic.
SPREADING RUMOURS AND PRESSURING PEOPLE INTO WRITING WITH YOU, IS WHAT MAKES YOU TOXIC. SLINGING GUILT AND MUD TOWARDS OTHER ROLEPLAYERS, IS TOXIC.
STOP BEING TOXIC, AND LEARN SOME BASIC HUMAN DECENCY.
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