My true place

Try saying things like:

“I’m not okay. I could use some support right now.”

“I’m not okay. Unfortunately, you can’t fix this for me. But I could use the company of a friend.”

“I’m not okay. But I’m not up to talking about it right now. Can we do something else to distract me?”

Often, your loved ones want to help you but they don’t know how.

I could use some company, honestly. Even if it’s just Netflix or, you reading a book and just holding my hand.

Are you okay?

I’ll be okay but I think I need to sit down in the quiet for a little while. Can I use your porch swing?

Are you okay?

I’m kinda scared about my upcoming appointment. Is it okay to talk about it?

Are you okay?

My anxiety’s a mess because my kitchen needs to be cleaned. Wouldn’t happen to know anyone with a free Saturday who likes pizza, would you?

Are you okay?

I haven’t slept well in days. May I come over and nap on your sofa? I think I just need not to be alone.

Are you okay?

I haven’t been able to cook for myself all week and have been skipping meals.

Are you okay?

I’m having a hard time asking for help.

What would you do if a friend said these things to you? Would you judge them? Hate them? Scold them or make fun of them?

I don’t think you would. And I don’t think you’d see them as a burden, either.

In the right spaces, you will be heard without shouting. You will be seen without showing your wounds. You will be understood without changing who you are.