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when youre inadvertently 1% too nice to a straight guy you can usually pinpoint the exact moment where he decides you must be acting that way because you want to fuck down on him crazy style and it is at this point that one would be well advised to have a cyanide capsule under a false tooth or an equivalent fast acting response

you're entitled to your opinion but it's stupid and bad and ill-informed and i hate you

it is kinda crazy how people simultaneously do a lot of loud worrying about csa and the nefarious pedophiles grooming their kids but then also do what should be seen as obvious preemptive sexual grooming on their own kids. the culture of “youre my kid” with an unsubtle undertone of possession and also the entitlement to children’s bodies that most parents have is like just. like when you make it clear to your kids that they have no right to bodily autonomy or that their upset over you touching them a certain way is inappropriate and not valid how are you going to expect that they then magically are able to say that those same feelings are suddenly valid when they’re caused by someone else? like so much of child raising involves such antagonistic and oftentimes physically violent forced access to children’s bodies often despite their active verbal nonconsent. and youre somehow unable to make the connection as to how this type of boundary stomping erodes someone’s ability to identify when your discomfort is “valid” vs “not valid” and how that would clearly leave someone incredibly vulnerable to sexual abuse

you’re so fucking spoiled you get to pick out which radiator you get chained to

people who say they think female characters are fundamentally uninteresting are genuinely the weakest links to me like if you cant even make yourself care about a FICTIONAL woman u kind of need to die slow

actually i do want more female characters who've experienced rape i just don't want men to ever write them ever again and i want all fandoms to stfu about it forever. not by ignoring it i mean stop acting like a female character experiencing something incredibly common for women to go through is inherently bad writing i hate you all so muchhhhh

idk i make this post every few months worded differently but I'm just so so sick of the popular opinion seeming to be that a character i like experiencing trauma i relate to is taboo and gross and fetishising. idk maybe some people just want to tell a story about a thing that happens to people. a lot. im going to start whining that any character with a dead parent is romanticising grief and wank off material for grief fetishists

also interesting that male characters with sexual trauma are almost always lauded as Progressive examples of Good Writing but you can't even point out the obvious signs that a female character in the exact same media has gone through the same thing without people crawling over each other to explain to you that actually that's shallow shock value writing so we should ignore it. because obviously a woman's trauma is only there for men to jerk off to and men's trauma is Real and worth exploring

and if the woman in question doesn't literally turn to the camera and say Btw i was raped then good fucking luck trying to get anyone to acknowledge it because suddenly they'll be pulling out seven hundred different "more progressive" abuses she could have gone through instead or insisting it was "just allegory". okay done now probably but i guess what im saying is be normal about this please

actually i do want more female characters who've experienced rape i just don't want men to ever write them ever again and i want all fandoms to stfu about it forever. not by ignoring it i mean stop acting like a female character experiencing something incredibly common for women to go through is inherently bad writing i hate you all so muchhhhh

idk i make this post every few months worded differently but I'm just so so sick of the popular opinion seeming to be that a character i like experiencing trauma i relate to is taboo and gross and fetishising. idk maybe some people just want to tell a story about a thing that happens to people. a lot. im going to start whining that any character with a dead parent is romanticising grief and wank off material for grief fetishists

also interesting that male characters with sexual trauma are almost always lauded as Progressive examples of Good Writing but you can't even point out the obvious signs that a female character in the exact same media has gone through the same thing without people crawling over each other to explain to you that actually that's shallow shock value writing so we should ignore it. because obviously a woman's trauma is only there for men to jerk off to and men's trauma is Real and worth exploring

another related thing i noticed. and i have no idea how to phrase this in any coherent way so apologies. its that male characters who are victims of sexual trauma are allowed to have complex feelings about it and are allowed to have had relationships with their abusers/assaulters. for them and them only its allowed to be a complex multifaceted trauma thjats not purely physical. whereas women who are written as Victims:tm: are still tied to the idea of the assaulter as a Stranger In The Night or at best an Abusive Boyfriend or any of these stock characters. they're just denied so much complexity regarding this. trauma is painted as this flat external thing and theres never room made for complex feelings of self-loathing, guilt, shame, etc

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and i do have to raise my eyebrows at "feminist" redesigns of characters where they just shrink down the woman's breasts. hey so you're aware that the size of them is not the problem it's how it's framed and the writing of the character. right.

the urge to download bad mobile games whenever you're slightly inconvenienced and on the brink of killing yourself should be studied