The Hidden Jukebox

But doesn’t work for actual trauma. Lack of social support can be a trauma, and in that case yes. All other- top 3 being domestic violence, rape, and child molestation, followed by policing and military action (last I sourced a few years ago) - these traumas aren’t dealt with in your fictional society. And frankly it wouldn’t solve the social problems we face.

okay… i’m confused. i was not posing a fictional society. apologies if i was unclear. 

i appreciate this article and the concepts discussed and, based on my own and other’s experiences, these ideas are connected to with healing practices

the idea, for me, behind understanding the nervous system response to stress and the factors that turn stress over into trauma… is not that you can consciously control your body or will your body out of the experience…

the idea is not to blame or judge or place responsibility on the traumatized individual in anyway. but rather to support, nurture, care for the individual in any way that lets them express themselves naturally - b/c it is this organic, natural response they need to heal. 

I’ve been thinking about this stuff, too, especially lately. It seems harder for me to let it go when it happens (which I’m working on).

i understand totally… it’s nice when it no longer matters. when it doesn’t have to mean anything – not anything important about you or even so much about the person who unfollowed

there was a time when i needed to cope with being at odds by either trying to fix myself or by judging the other person wrong/off somehow

more and more, as i heal… i don’t really feel so much (anger/hurt) like people who don’t like me are bad or wrong or need adjusting, nor do i feel i need adjusting so much, nor do i have a need to declare those people “losers” or otherwise… less. 

instead i feel really comfortable just deciding who i do and don’t want to surround myself with and leaving it at that. accepting that there are valid positions that i just don’t want to be involved with or that i’m not at all interested in and being fine with the possibility that those are good poisitions even so - just not my thing - that feels really free. also - honest. 

because the same way no else really knows all about me, i can’t really know what is motivating anyone else. so it’s not for me to say if someone is absolutely good/bad/indifferent - it is only for me to decide what and who i want to be close with. it becomes a matter of – who I want close and involved in my practice*

it’s also a matter of how i want to spend my time… to i want to spend it all analytically, always comparing what i think is happening with what i think should happen? or do i want to fully sink into the experience and be curious about all the sensations and feels it brings.