Love The Unloved, Please.

My main reason for loving him because he was initially love obsessed, but the fucking writers decided, actually, men wanted love is too cringe, and scrapped that, but my version of him, my headmate of him, is love obsessed, a complete and utter philophile, just like me. I love the first season, and there are some good bits in season 2, but I will stand by my statement that season one was the only good season. I don't know what happened, the quality just tanked immediately.

But back to Homelander. I dunno, he just hooked me. I didn't get into the boys for, like, two years after its release because I saw no promotional stuff of him, none at all, and then one day I saw a gifset of him and just fell in love. Then, I found out he was from The Boys and was like :/ He is... Not a complicated character, BUT HE COULD HAVE BEEN. I have docs filled with how I would have directed the show, and really, how I would have handle Homelander, and maybe one day I'll post it, but right now, I'm fine with writing little vignettes of him.

I want him to be cunning and controlled in his anger, but I do also love that he's like that. My version of him is what if he got a redemption arc. He'd still act the time, still lie and kill, just less so. He's still be awful, but restrained in his awful, if that makes sense.

I've said it a thousand times, but I'll keep saying it; fanfic writers write Homelander 1000 times better. Read any Homelander x reader fic and you'll see.

oh well

How did we end up in such a puritanical culture?

My main reason for loving him because he was initially love obsessed, but the fucking writers decided, actually, men wanted love is too cringe, and scrapped that, but my version of him, my headmate of him, is love obsessed, a complete and utter philophile, just like me. I love the first season, and there are some good bits in season 2, but I will stand by my statement that season one was the only good season. I don't know what happened, the quality just tanked immediately.

But back to Homelander. I dunno, he just hooked me. I didn't get into the boys for, like, two years after its release because I saw no promotional stuff of him, none at all, and then one day I saw a gifset of him and just fell in love. Then, I found out he was from The Boys and was like :/ He is... Not a complicated character, BUT HE COULD HAVE BEEN. I have docs filled with how I would have directed the show, and really, how I would have handle Homelander, and maybe one day I'll post it, but right now, I'm fine with writing little vignettes of him.

I want him to be cunning and controlled in his anger, but I do also love that he's like that. My version of him is what if he got a redemption arc. He'd still act the time, still lie and kill, just less so. He's still be awful, but restrained in his awful, if that makes sense.

I've said it a thousand times, but I'll keep saying it; fanfic writers write Homelander 1000 times better. Read any Homelander x reader fic and you'll see.

I’m so glad you asked! Let me list off what I’ve got for you:

Books I personally recommend:

- The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

If you’re having kinky sex at all, you need to read at least one of these two books. Point blank. They’ll teach you the very basics of negotiating properly (which is critical!), and help you identify what you are and aren’t into.

- Mindfucking Mindfully, by Sir Ezra Where this book really shines isn’t actually in helping you “mindfuck” people, it’s in taking a close look at how to do so ethically. It’s a great answer to the question “how do I get someone to consent to something and still surprise and shock them with it?”

- Real Service by Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny This is a slightly niche pick but there simply isn’t a better book on the subject. It’s written from a 24/7 M/s perspective, which is not what I do, but the book itself is an indispensable guide to giving and receiving service. The phrase “if the Master doesn’t want it, it isn’t service” will be burned into my psyche for quite some time. I love this book a lot. Maybe my favorite out of all of these.

- Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation, by Princess Kali This one’s high on my reading list; I’ve heard it recommended by a number of people whose opinions on these things I trust.

- Pretty Much Anything Midori Has Ever Done Midori is a great resource for this stuff - I haven’t personally read much of her work, but she’s a well known sex educator and great at what she does. She’s known for bondage, but has a lot of range beyond that.

- This Negotiations Worksheet from Bex Talks Sex This is what I default to using a lot of the time for negotiations. Forget BDSMtest, you don’t need that, it’s no good. Just look through this worksheet’s wordbank with your partner. Big fan especially of the “how do you want to feel?” section.

Books I can kind of recommend:

- The Ultimate Guide to Kink, edited by Tristan Taormino This book is weird. There’s a lot of good info for experienced players, but some of what’s written here skeeves me out. I think if I had a top that thought the way some of the tops in here think, they would not be topping me for long. But there’s some good techniques and so on to pick up that I wouldn’t have otherwise. I liked the distinction one of the authors makes between being sadistic in the sense of inflicting pain and being sadistic in the sense of doing something your sub doesn’t “enjoy.”

- The Ritual of Dominance and Submission, by David English Man, this book fucking sucks. The writing and editing are garbage, and the fear and protocol play described need way more careful negotiation than he ever lets on, let alone recommends. This is some 50 Shades bullshit. The only time I recommend this book is to tops like me who tend to be very affirming to their partners and need a guide on how to really scare them - when their partner consents and when you negotiate it, which this book sucks at teaching you. Really good content on fear, punishment, and protocol play, really terrible presentation of the topic though. Don’t read this if you don’t already know what you’re doing.

- Paradigms of Power, by Raven Kaldera I love this book. Great book. Very focused on 24/7 M/s play though, and, being an anthology, some chapters are better than others. If you can’t read something and pick out what is and isn’t for you, don’t bother. But some really great inspiration, and generally pretty well written. Big fan of the discussion of leather throughout the book.

the new bottoming book pdf

(heads up for the topping/bottoming books: the front covers and the titles listed in the urls themselves are switched for some reason, just an uploading error i assume. i've labelled them correctly here)

enough to make you blush download

real service download

the ultimate guide to kink pdf

the ritual of dominance and submission download

paradigms of power download

hell on wheels download

kneeling in spirit download

better bondage for every body download

and another pair of books by raven kaldera that seem interesting, on the topic of bdsm with mental illness and neurological issues: mastering mind and broken toys

My main reason for loving him because he was initially love obsessed, but the fucking writers decided, actually, men wanted love is too cringe, and scrapped that, but my version of him, my headmate of him, is love obsessed, a complete and utter philophile, just like me. I love the first season, and there are some good bits in season 2, but I will stand by my statement that season one was the only good season. I don't know what happened, the quality just tanked immediately.

But back to Homelander. I dunno, he just hooked me. I didn't get into the boys for, like, two years after its release because I saw no promotional stuff of him, none at all, and then one day I saw a gifset of him and just fell in love. Then, I found out he was from The Boys and was like :/ He is... Not a complicated character, BUT HE COULD HAVE BEEN. I have docs filled with how I would have directed the show, and really, how I would have handle Homelander, and maybe one day I'll post it, but right now, I'm fine with writing little vignettes of him.

I want him to be cunning and controlled in his anger, but I do also love that he's like that. My version of him is what if he got a redemption arc. He'd still act the time, still lie and kill, just less so. He's still be awful, but restrained in his awful, if that makes sense.

I've said it a thousand times, but I'll keep saying it; fanfic writers write Homelander 1000 times better. Read any Homelander x reader fic and you'll see.

Thank you! Yes! Paraphilics often suffer a lot thanks to the prejudice and stigma we face, and we should have easier access to professional help to deal with things like depression or anxiet-