Moana Kitten❀

…I have done this so many times in my life 

Oh wow. Flashbacks

Yep.

Definitely. Pretend to orgasm and make sure he does so the torture ends. I remember a man who coerced me into having sex and I didn’t orgasm, and I didn’t pretend to, and afterwards he said to me in a condescending way: “you have to relax to be able to come, you know. You should relax more” …

Oh yes, this - many women can’t even identify that what they have been subjected to is actually rape, but call it “bad sex” or “a grey zone” at best. I did that myself and after ten years the trauma came like a flood wave. I think it can be for several reasons, but the biggest is probably how it is a general notion that women should be available, that sex is about pleasing the man, and that sex is something of a “duty” for women. So many women stand it and pretend to come to make it end but don’t know they have all the right in the world to protest and demand their partners take responsibility for this too. With sexual violence being normalized I fear we will see this increase, so we must raise our voices even more and make a stand against this, making it easiser for women to identify when they are violated, when real consent hasn’t been given as it should, when they are subjected to coercion etcetera. Because this is a tragedy.

what the fuck