Every community has abusers hiding in it, and I think we would be naive to say that kink communities (not just feedism) make excellent hunting grounds because people are often already playing with power dynamics/imbalances, and it's easy to manipulate that into abuse. We also cannot ignore the fatphobia aspect, and you have abusers telling their victims, no one but me will love you cause you are fat and disgusting and then society is like, “lol true”.

People outside the community constantly accuse us of not addressing that, and it’s like, hey so we talk about that constantly actually and are also the ones most likely to be the victims of those abusers. So when you send death threats to a queer, fat, RACK compliant feedist over a jokey post you didn’t like, I’m not actually sure you are the good guy you think you are.

People just completely ignore anything that we have to say, ignore any fat lib/activism work we do, and make documentary after documentary being like: “Look how icky and gross this thing I don’t understand is!” Without ever addressing the actual issues they are supposedly so concerned about.

Playing with My Food 💕

I'd love to take you to a park full of joggers, wearing clothes that are way too small for you, revealing your jiggly cellulite to everyone. Having you stuff yourself like a pig on a public bench in a sweat-stained t-shirt and yoga pants, unshowered, validating every possible negative fat stereotype.

I'd have you look at all those fit girls running around while whispering in your ear how much of a hog you've become and how far you are drifting from anything considered a functional woman ; yet whispering how much I crave it. Telling you to open that box of donuts the second you are done with your burger to disable yourself a bit more. Whispering that you probably shouldn't even bother showering tonight either, since you're far too lazy for that anyway.

It’s so weird going shopping and seeing a top that I think would fit me and it turns out it’s super tight as fuck because I no longer wear a small/medium 🐷

I totally agree! I think a lot of it is fatphobia, but also the inability to understand kink and anything that is “outside” of your own way of life.

Feedism is about consent, it’s about autonomy over our bodies, it’s about expressing ourselves in the way we see fit!

People see all feedism as coercive and it’s always the hot button topics like death feedism that get the most attention. I can say for all the people I’ve met in the community, none of us are being coerced or forced to do anything, we are all glad to be here. We have had this fetish our whole lives and it’s been insanely isolating and shameful. That’s why it’s so important to find community and break the isolation - realize you have nothing to be ashamed of and you are completely justified in loving what you love!

On the topic of death feedism - for 90% of people it’s just a fantasy. It’s something that’s hot to roleplay or think about, but not actually something they are aiming for. But for the 10% of people who are really serious about achieving it, who are you to tell someone what to do with their body and life? If someone is making the conscious decision to go down that path, then what is really the problem? It may seem like extreme because IT IS EXTREME. That is kink. It doesn’t always fit in a perfect box you can put on the shelf and forget about when you see fit.