#youcouldcomewithme

(i hit the character limit, fuck you tumblr) acknowledge the fact that other people, other abuse survivors, don't see it the same way and could be triggering for them. and basically it all comes down to the most important thing you could ever do on tumblr, other than not being asshole, and that's to tag your shit with the appropriate "cw" tags.

Oh i know you weren’t referring to me love, i get you.  We’re on the same level here.  And exactly.  Gladly, some people are tagging their anti stuff so i can block it just as i always tag the ships, especially ones i know might bother people.    Every abuse survivor deals with things their own way, and i will definitely make sure that ones who don’t perceive certain ships or actions or cope the way i do never have to read anything or see anything they don’t want to, because i’ll have that tagged.  Not that i’ll be posting fic, i honestly haven’t read much fanfiction in a good while now and i haven’t read any for this ship because who knows what i’ll come across on either extreme and i’m exceedingly picky about what i read in general, so i won’t be reblogging in any of that.

But yeah, basically, all of this.

Name: Kris Gender: female Height: 5′3″ Where I live: U.S. (Texas) Time/date: 11:39 AM on August 13th Average amount of sleep: 5-7 hours Most recently watched and enjoyed movie: When Marnie was There My favorite band: This changes too often for me to say tbh, it is always based on my mood of the moment One thing that ticks me off: Ignorance.  Not really not knowing better and saying the wrong thing, everyone’s done that, but KNOWING better and continuing to be an ignorant asshole really pisses me off to no end Favorite drink: root beer or cream soda Meaning of my URL: i tend to prefer title toward myself that aren’t exactly “regal” but of high standing and generally meaning a powerful person or a person of a certain standing who isn’t perfect.  Like i prefer “madame” more often than not but i’ve also used “goddess” paired with “severed” (meaning i’m a fallen/broken/not whole one) which i use for several things.  I’ve also paired “madame” with “mad”  to the same effect. It suits my personality.  And here i’me paired with “loki of asgard” because i not only love him and he’s not just my favorite character but because i identify, in the darker and most troubled and broken parts of myself, with him.  He is basically a part of me in many respects.  I just AM Madame Loki of Asgard at this point.  I literally just can’t bring myself to change my url anymore and haven’t in years Most used phrases: “i just...”, “seriously, what the fuck?”, “well that’s not good”, “oh HELL no” Favorite movie soundtrack: oh lord...i don’t often go looking for soundtracks but: lotr/hobbit soundtracks, and basically all Ghibli/Miyazaki soundtracks, and Back to the Future

lol man, i ask myself that question all the time.

I mean, like part of it is this “you’re my parent and i feel obligated” love because we get on okay through superficial and shallow shit but any time it’s important...my mom will sometimes act like she wants to understand and listen to what i say and how i feel, and then she has to argue and negate stuff.  Or complete shut down and refuse to discuss important things at all so we can get along.   Like she refuses to evolve at all.

Like...my dad can be pretty damn bad and we’ve had a rough past where we didn’t get along at all and i even hated him  but like...i’ve made headway with him on things concerning my past and how i felt/how i feel.  I finally sat down and told him everything about how i felt growing up and how i feel now and he listened and apologized and even cried.  And when i called him out on like transphobia and homophobia  (most of it came from his tendency to say shit like “Ellen DeGenderless” which really made me go off on him) he again listened and stopped.  He evolved somewhat.  And he may be a seriously  frustrating republican, most of the time it seems that it comes from a serious place of not hate but serious ignorance.  So like...there is hope with him.

But it’s hard with my mom.  And i love her but sometimes i hate her. And it makes me so damn sad.   Like sometimes i think she wants to listen, but at the same time she hates being wrong and when anything i say isn’t what she wants to hear she’ll argue or shut off and that’s the end of it.

I could cut it all off, but like...i feel bad, i want Dorian to have all his grandparents; and my mom is alone, her parents are dead and she rarely talks to her brothers.  I have about 4 hours of distance between me and my dad and that helps, and an hours from my mom.  And we talk only a few times a years so it’s not oppressively all the time...which is why i think it’s the only way i’ve been able to cope.  Distance is really good.

it’ll get better. right now, not watching doctor who kind of feels like the first time i blacklisted river song. it’s like a cleansing. it does make me want to rewatch s1 for the 100th time though.

Then Carly said something sarcastic about being rude to waiters, making sure they heard her of course. And one of the girls came over and said something like "Oh you think you're so much better than us?" And Carly said "Well I don't know if I'm 'better' than you, but I'm a lot less annoying and rude, thank god...which now that I think about it, it's pretty much the same thing. So yes, I guess I am better than you. Now go sit down. You're making an ass out of yourself." And the girl just kind of scoffed and walked away.

it wouldn't piss me off as much if they weren't purposely condescending and act like they're so much better than people who do like sherlock. there's no point in arguing with them either, it's just ridiculous.

Exactly and, i know some of my friends prefer it but when i do see the condescending attitudes of posts against Sherlock in favor of Elementary just NO.  Your superiority complex makes you better than us how? lmao fuck off people, i don't have time for your hypocrisies.

sometimeswhy replied to your post: “Also…any time i see a post shaming people for watching Sherlock? Okay...”:

shaming anyone for watching any show is stupid, because literally all shows have problematic elements. that's just the reality of today's media. so we watch the stuff and hope it gets better, because the alternative is not watching TV at all

Fact.  I do not shame people for liking elementary.  I do not shame people for loving Moff who, even if i don;t personally understand it--not unless i am personally attacked.   There are problematic elements in both shows.  Some more than others.  But shaming people for liking it is just...NO