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So, when Santana was telling abuelita, "I love girls the way I'm supposed to love boys," I didn't like it.

I dunno. I felt like she felt she really was supposed to love boys.

Sexuality is a touchy and often confusing subject. I still don't understand it completely, though I do know I'm straight. But when Santana said, "supposed to," something in my head just clicked.

I know in this day and age, homosexuality isn't accepted in many parts of the US--the world, even. We grew up with the ideals of having to be straight, having to be married one day to the opposite sex, and then having a family. Now a days, that traditional idea of "normal life" has broken down to people wishing for independence of themselves, fear of marriage (or more so of an extent, divorce), and sometimes even the fear of having to raise children.

The "typical" family picture that our parents grew up with, we don't see anymore. We grew up with several "typical" families; fathers leave, mothers die, we're raised by grandparents instead due to whatever reason it could be, maybe our older siblings were our parents, maybe we were parents to our younger siblings--it's not the same picture as before.

We grew away from the picture our parents were installed with. But then again, we grew away from many pictures our parents were installed with.

Women don't have to be housewives anymore. Gay people aren't hiding as much as they were back then. We're advancing in technology much faster than when our parents were our age. Some ideals our parents grew up on--the ones we question how they could believe in at times--are the ideals we're not either fighting against, or have disregard completely.

However, it's still obvious, that there are still ideals from years ago still with us today. How, if you were born a girl, you're supposed to like boys, and if you were born a boy, you're supposed to like girls. In a way, I kinda wish people wouldn't use the words "supposed to," because it's probably those words that make them so confused (with other factors, most definitely).

No one is "supposed to" do anything but be themselves and live their life how they want to. That's the philosophy I've always believed in. That's the philosophy I'll carry with me to my grave.

If you want to live one way, rather than the other, there really should be no problem and no one telling you what you're supposed to do (unless of course, along the way your "happiness" involves achieving in something, in which then, you obviously have things you need to do to get it).

Santana, you like girls, you like girls. Though we all grew up with supposed ideals, don't feel obligated to follow them.

You make your ideals.