#writting tips

yeah I know the obvious answer is probably "of course", but I'm still kinda insecure about it... I've always had good grades in english at school but still I've baerly talked to other people who speak english natively or been to a county that has english as it's main language yet. besides, sometimes I don't quite understand how to use some expressions or certain gramatical rules that I should know for writting anyway, if anyone has any opinion or tip, please let me know!

My head is full of idea but i never seem to be satisfied with whatever I write, but I really want to share all of those story with people.

1-DONT MAKE THE ABUSE ROMANTIC!!!lLIKE NEVER!!!while yes you want to make the caracters likeble dont use the actual abusive and fucked up parts of the relationship to do that the abuse SHOULD ALWAYS BE TREATED WITH A LEVEL OF ACTUAL RESPECT and Even if the caracter has a motive for theyre abuse remember ABUSE IS NEVER JUSTIFYED and the caracter that comited the abuse should always be held acountable in one way or another by the story or other caracters

2-please Lets try not sexualizing abuse….kinda enter into the first Point but its só common in romantasy and those kinda shit that i needed to put it in here…like Lets try to give some respect to the victim at least

3-“but them how am i supposed to make people root for the ship”SHOWN THEM HOW THE CARACTERS ARE IN THEYRE GOOD MOMENTS!!!show that they Mean well but the situation is fucked and even though they could do another thing to solve they were too fucked up or confused to think that!!!show that they care or that they have theyre own motives for doing shit like that!!!and also remember morally ambíguos situations are youre friend in this situation…like for an example forcefeeding someone and taking theyre autonomy IS WRONg but if theyre trying to save someone its still not RIGHT but at least its justifiable…that what is missing in those toxic bad boys of romantasy…theyre missing this kinda of nuance of admiting that abuse is never RIGHT but that it can be UNDERSTANDBLE if you know the how to create the cirscuntance for that

4-also kinda related to the third tip but there are some events that Even if you play with the circunstances SHOULD NEVER BE EVEN UNDERSTANDBLE!!this especially apply if youre taking real life inspirations…i like to thing this is an espectrum…the more fantástical the abuse is the more easy its to justify it in the eyes of the public…remember trying to take real Life things that actually fucked up a lot of people life and trying to make it more understandble will make people MORE DISGUSTED because them it will Sound like youre diminushing these peoples suffering in prol of making youre caracter more likeble.like again theres a diference of making someone canibalize another person in prol of making them live(which is definitly amore fantastical moment)then for example an slave owner buying someone because they want to save them, because in the first case the thing is almost completly fantastical, but them in the other youre actually putting a thing real people do and saying “but what if he has his motives???”which treats the pain of real people as less then the people who abuses them IN REAL LIFE

5-show how the abuse the person did affects the other partner and always remember THE PAIN OF THE PARTNER SHOULD ALWAYS BE THE FOCOS NOT THE PAIN OF THE PERPETRATOR…like the perpetrator can be in pain, or better yet SHOULD, but you should never lose the focos on the victim or what they did to her….remember always MOTIVE IS NOT EXCUSEEE

6-show the flipside aswell, like how the abuser helped the victim and show how the abuser is trying to change to make amends, and actually SHOW THE CHANGE, make the abuser WANT the best for the abused and try to reach that, try to compensate, show the good parts of the relationship, how when they dont make each other worst they make each other better, show why they want to be with each other after all the shit

7-also related to the third Point….lets try to not use power dinamics aswell please…its way easyer to make the love for the two of them to actually stick when they can actually give up and go away them when one of them is bound to the other by some kind of power dinamic…and its even worst if its a real life power dinamic…that why its easyer to accept a woman being the abuser than a man…the real life paralels are minor and therefore easyer to ignore.

8-and at last, remember ambiguos moments are youre friend in this type of situation…maybe the abuser has a magical coping mecanism that hurts the abused….maybe theyre being manipulated, Maybe theyre scared of being abandoned, maybe theyre afraid of the other one doing something stupid….the key of the thing is to make the abuse horrible but the motives or situation understandble

Só yeah thats all if some actual victim of abuse wants to add theyre cents be free to do so(Also be free to say if i did say anything shitty i know how complex this topic can be)

I am looking for an good app to keep my OCs,so I'll be giving you all my opinions on the ones i test.

The order is the order of Wich I tested first.

1- Toyhouse

If you like making very personalized profiles,prefer to focus on drawings, toyhouse is a good option for you,if you known how to code.

The fact that you need a code to enter may be a bum to a lot of people, but finding a code nowadays doesn't seem so hard,so that's not the big problem,if you don't know how to code,or you will have to break your head to learn,or you will have to content yourself with a simple,minimalist,Google doc like profile.

2- Character hub

Easy to use,pretty interface, during the character profile creation they give you options of tabs/questions to make the process easier.

Focus on images/drawings.

Easy to organize.

If you like simple/minimalist aesthetic changes,that's a good option.

Not a lot of options for personalization(basic only color of buttons and the page)

Can be very laggy for mobile.

3-Ocbin

Needs an invitation code,and I didn't liked the interface enough to bother looking for one.

I think the interface is kind of old style,is not ugly,but it isn't my thing.

4- Ref sheet.net

Easy to make an account, doesn't need an invitation code.

Interface is not interesting,not my thing.

Not a lot of options for personalization.

I can't delete the account I made,if anyone knows how please tell me

5-Worldanvil

It's cool so far,the interface is nice and it's easy to use,the only bad thing is that apparently you have to upgrade to be able to make your project private.

A bit annoying to use on mobile.

But the focus is more Worldbuilding than character creation.

6-campfire

It's okay, interface is pretty,easy to use.

Laggy on mobile.

7-Unvale

The interface is pretty,easy to use,the only option of personalization is the color of the character profile.

Kind of a character hub without the lagging.

Will test:

Obsidian

And it's funny because they're right in saying that it's not just saying random words in Spanish, it's literally putting certain sentences and almost repeating the same thing but in English or more than repeating it is saying something else that reaffirms what you said in Spanish, if you want the other person to understand you well if they don't speak any Spanish at all.

But apart from that, the truth is that not much happens, obviously what will stand out the most in Spanish words and actually in anny kind of language are the expressions

If you are an English speaker but you moved to Mexico and now you speak Spanish almost all the time, the typical expressions that you used to say in the United States or wherever you come from will not go away so easily.

A good tip is to think in that way, if you were that character with a nationality or your parents are from another country and you speak that other language constantly, how would you speak? And what are the expressions you would still use un your language?

They handle that in the film in a decent way, because for example all the expressions that Miguel says in a sarcastic, desperate way and whispers to himself he says them in Spanish (giving you to understand that he is very familiar with the language in the sense of speaking it, so much so that he continues to use some phrases).

That unlike Miles who has a mother who speaks Spanish, he has spoken English all his life and although he is used to his mother's Puerto Rican Spanish (he understands her when she speaks some things) in reality he doesn't speak it, because he never had the need to speak spanish or to express himself with phrases in another language other than with his mother (if that were the case).

And considering Miles' mother, she speaks more fluent Splanglish and her accent is still quite thick, has anyone seen Sofia Vergara in Mother Family? She's literally Gloria

And here comes in also knowing the different expressions for the different Spanish speaking countries which would be almost the same as with American English and British English.

It is not the same to use expressions in Puerto Rican Spanish (which is what Miles' mother should use) to mexican expressions (which is what Miguel should use) to expressions in Spanish spain or other Spanish-speaking countries (which, as strange as it sounds, is what Miguel uses in the film and Miles uses in the short conversation he has with Miguel, calling him "tío")

And honestly it's not a complaint, because I adore Oscar Issac and maybe I understand a little bit about the accent and the words because my man is from Guatemala.

But again is not the same to say "automóvil" here in Mexico, the word means the same thing but here in Mexico we don't use that word much to refer to a car, we call it "carro".

There are words that do become common i'm diferente countries, but back to the expressions.

"Ay coño" is not a Mexican expression.

Yes in Latin America because is it used in other countries and in Spain, but here un México that word is used but almost nothing and not for the same, there are more expressions that are used in Mexico, that somehow I understand that it will not be used, I consider that the common Mexican expressions, the real ones, are very rude and vulgar, but that in some way characterizes us.

I was waiting for Miguel O'hara to say something stupid like "Me está llevando la chingada" (which means he's fed up with every situation and can't take it anymore) because it seemed that at some point the man couldn't take any more with a "mocoso" (brat).

Someone made a post with some expressions and words in Spanish, it is very good sincerely, I hope you see it, but if you want to enjoy a good movie in the dubbing is full of Mexicanisms, see Shrek in Latin American Spanish.

In the Hangover movie the dubbing uses expressions that would be used here in Mexico, if you want more rude expressions with the Spanish dubbing.

But remember that if you want to base it on a movie, all the dubbing should be Latin American which is the closest to Mexican expressions.