#writing creatively

I kept writing, even when I’d fallen short at all the other attempts at creativity. I keep telling people that I wrote my first story when I was 9 and I remember it being about a cat, and that was weird because I hadn’t owned a pet in Cebu, much less a cat, until I was 14. We had Kitkat then, our precious shih tzu who died in 2017 and a baby I still miss very much.

The story about that cat, that I don’t even remember, was not technically the first thing I’d ever written. I had kept journals and diaries from the age of 6, or whatever age I was when I learned to write. You could say this was heavily inspired by Barbie Diaries. Using my allowance, I’d buy diaries with locks from the small stores outside of school. I would write almost every day—about nothing special in retrospect, but when you’re 9 years old and crushing on 5 different male classmates, everything was special.

I kept writing. People knew me in school as the one kid who writes. I feel like it was one of the reasons why I was chosen to participate in a preliminary exam where the student who would spell the most number of given words would go on to compete in an inter-school spelling bee. I went on to represent my school and won first place against 6th graders while I was the only one in 5th grade. It was cool.

After that, people saw me as someone good with words. By the first year of high school, or Grade 7 as we called it, I had a notebook (a “lineless” one, the sole Christmas gift I’d asked from my mother the year before, because pretentious me said I didn’t want the limits of lines) filled with writing prompts and original characters. I wrote so much that I managed to fill it by the time the 3rd quarter of the school year rolled in and by then, it was also well-worn from being passed around so much among my classmates. For some reason, they enabled my shitty prompts and ridiculous characters.

“Good with words” was a tag that followed me well into college, too, but this was my own doing since I joined both the student publication and the university’s creative writing organization in the first semester of my first year, within months of each other.

You can say I really like writing. I mean, I spent these last 8 paragraphs talking about it.

In all seriousness, though, it’s my only outlet. It helps me make sense of the chaos in my head and I’m someone who’s very particular about organization, too, and more than anything, what’s in my head should be the neatest, cleanest, and clearest organization of anything, if nothing else.

So, it’s absolutely horrifying to come to the conclusion that even after all these years of trying to write creatively, I’m still bad at it. Once I realized I was bad at it, I promptly stopped writing (creatively), too. When once I could think up the most exciting and even romantic scenarios on a daily basis, now I’m crippled with my own self-fed thought: I just don’t write good.

Sure, maybe we can say it’s just the paralysis that comes after having your work critiqued (skinned alive, more like) in writing workshops with renowned, multi-awarded, and well-known writers, but you’re supposed to get over that in a few months or at most a year. You’re supposed to keep writing after that because that’s the point. I’ve joined and even organized not more than 10 writing workshops in my life. I’m always grateful for the critique I receive and I’m always excited to do my best again, but somehow, I just couldn’t then. I managed to edit some of my works that have been through the wringer at workshops, but they never are good enough. They don’t have that zing to it. I don’t know why I’m looking for a fucking zing either.

Last year, in August, I got into Korean popular music, or Kpop. Technically, I’d gotten into it in early May, during the hell-est of hell for a graduating student. It was the last stretch of the semester and I could only find comfort in watching performances of Blackpink. From there I branched out.

In August, I was introduced to the boy group Stray Kids. They are the love of my life now (sorry, Kyle! You’re my top 1, still). They’re the first boy group I’ve ever gotten serious on and really my bridge into Kpop.

Now, I’m not new to fandom. I’m a child of the internet and fandom is, quite frankly, all I know, so, in the same sense, I’m not a complete stranger to fanfiction. I love it. I’m an avid consumer of it. My friend calls me the “secgen” with how I organize my SKZ (shorthand for Stray Kids) fics recommendations into a meticulous list (actually, twitter thread) of fics per pairing/ship, complete with short summaries, tags, and links to each fanfic.

I’m not just good with words; I know how to love and appreciate them, too, hence the meticulous list of recommendations.

It wasn’t until I read the most perfect fanfiction in that kpop fandom that I decided I would write fanfiction, too. For the first time in my life.

I’m not new to fanfiction but I am new to writing it. One psychometrician board exam passed and one oathtaking ceremony later, I managed to write a fic, with much, much encouragement from a friend, of course, who is also into Kpop and likes fanfiction. She had to deal with my overthinking and for that, I was grateful.

I posted that fic on January 2020 even when it was supposed to be a Christmas and New Year fic because my anxiety got the best of me and I took too long to finish it. I still did, anyway, which I consider a wondrous feat in itself for someone who hasn’t been writing creatively. As I said in my author’s note, it was my first time writing fanfiction and it had been 4 years since I last wrote fiction in general, not to mention it was my first time writing in third person, too, and in present tense.

I don’t think my fic is any good. I still find many things to hate about it. But I’ve posted it. I’ve received some comments and several kudos and it really lights up a fire that’s long been dead inside me. Fanfiction is nice in the way that there’s always an audience, a market, for it, so you’re always sure someone, at least one person, is going to appreciate the content you produce. I like that I write fanfiction. It’s fun and interesting and while I do still wish that I had the ease of practice of several of my favorite fanfiction writers, who have been writing for years, I still like to think that me writing fanfiction is a win.

I don’t think I’ll ever find a creativity that’s enough for me. A work of my own that I find good enough. I don’t even know my own writing style. I flit from one style to another, depending on whose work I’m reading. A panelist told me in one of the workshops that when you start out with writing, you always end up mimicking other writers’ voices before finding your own. I’ve been writing for years and I never found that voice. But I truthfully don’t think I’m in any place to stop searching now.

I got myself out of a dark place recently. I’ve managed to watch TV shows and continue where I left off from last year, and I’ve started writing again. Just recently. There’s a lot of hurt and anger from everything that’s happened to me that I haven’t processed yet—because I’m still too prideful to seek therapy but also self-aware enough to know I need it—but maybe, or at least, when I’m writing, the weight gets a little lighter to bear.