#woo!!!!!!!!

one of my aunts is pretty sick, like scary sick, and my mom has been tasked by my family to take care of her and its making me so upset. my mom is also very sick! and takes lots of meds that make her sicker! she’s been sick all her life and used to be a nurse and taught herself a ton of medical shit so her family just relies on her for everything and it makes me so angry. my aunt has a healthy husband who could be working from home and doing the treatments and everything that’s needed and he’s not but he also helped decide that my aunt should go home instead of staying in the hospital for treatment so my mom is like.... stuck at my granddads taking care of my aunt. my mom had been taking care of my granddad for a year and then taking care of my grandmom before that and that was all day work as well as cleaning out that whole huge house because nobody else fucking would even tho her siblings were all healthy at the time

my mom does so fucking much on top of how sick she is and all the doctors she has to see and meds she has to manage and i feel like her family is taking advantage of her again but i dont know what to do! they live close enough for me to drive down so im going to visit sun/mon and try to help my mom however i can even if its just bringing a care package and providing distractions but i feel sick over everything. ofc my dad isn’t doing anything for my mom at all and is probably making things worse somehow like he tends to do

my mom has to take the cat to the fucking vet cause my dad won’t take off work so she’s gonna be doing so much fucking driving even tho thats what makes her pain flare the most and its make me so angry. and like her cats that she loves and have been her main source of happiness are kept locked in a small room all day and i know they’re probably freaking out cause my dad mistreats them (except the one he has deemed “his” even tho he didn’t take this cat to be spayed like what the FUCK DAD my mom had to stay up w/ her while she was in heat because my dad didn’t get her fucking spayed?????? and he didn’t mention it until that happened??????? even tho he claims she’s HIS CAT like this is the cat my mom is taking to the vet to get stitches out because my mom is the one who went and got the cat spayed)

i already broke down and cried about all this shit and it isn’t even all of it i just feel so goddamn useless and im so angry about it. im not even working right now i should be able to take care of my mom while shes taking care of others but she kept insisting i not do it and i dont know! i dont know! all of this shit is happening exactly a year after my grandmom died and my mom didn’t even get to visit her grave and that pisses me off so much too

im just so scared this is going to like. kill my mom. like literally. she has so many health issues and so many exacerbated by stress and she’s pushing herself beyond all limits (she sleeps for 2 - 3 hours most days and drives for at least 3 most days if she isn’t going to doctors or whatever else)