What's interesting to me is that according to a friend of mine who's trans is that there used to be a time where being trans was much less of a hassle than what it is nowadays.
There was a golden window where most people (where we live, anyway) didn't really know what being trans meant and the general consensus was "live and let live". Trans spaces focused on how to pass, what to do while you were not passing and how to adjust to a life where some stuff was simply not accessible to you anymore. The ultimate goal was to pass and adjust to the point that you could live a peaceful life post-transition fully passing as the gender you identified with.
Nowadays, instead of trans people adjusting to ensure their own comfort, many expect the rest of the world to do that work for them. My friend, while passing and living a normal life, is no longer welcome in trans spaces because he's and "old school bigot trans", and while in the past he never had to worry about being clocked he now has to be extra careful, cautious and stressed by a political landscape that constantly centers people like him.
There was a moment where it seemed like society was more than willing to accept trans people, then the rhetoric shifted and the terminally online trans crowd started demanding people detach themselves from reality when addressing them, refusing to do the work to properly pass and calling anyone who refused dating them a bigot.
Hopefully things will calm down with time, but the damage this very vocal and aggressive crowd has done to people who just wanted to treat their own dysphoria is sad to see.
