#vbfanswers

Daffodil: What’s the most thoughtful present you’ve ever received?

This is a good question.. and I really honestly don’t know. Uhh…my old best friend was the very first friend to celebrate my birthday on my birthday other than immediate family. I’ll never forget that :)

Rhododendron: What’s the scariest dream you’ve ever had?

It’s one I’ll never forget ever in my life and I had it years ago. I had a gun and was trying to stop some guy from doing something and the shot ricocheted off of something and hit my mom and I watched her die and I couldn’t save her no matter what I did.

…this is unexpected. I never considered her as me.

I feel like I’m going to leave people out, ergghh… Um.. blog and/or personality wise I love (in no particular order):

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phosphorescentt

health-gasm

happyvibeshappylife

dcruzer

sweatyeah

hihelloxo

elisetheviking

paigepicc

deadliftdolly

fatmaninalittlesuit

therealbarbielifts

I never realized this was in my inbox because I’m always on mobile and almost never click on my inbox because I normally don’t get messages! I’m so sorry!

Uhm… I feel like this is fishing for a “short cut”. And like you want to do exactly what I’m doing because I’m having progress. So I just want to throw it out there that what works for me won’t work for everyone and everyone’s body reacts differently to everything so just figure out what works for you and don’t focus on numbers so much.

Most of my progress has come from NOT focusing on wanting progress as much as I have in the past. It has come from knowing that it will happen and I just need to focus on being a happy person.

I work with a personal trainer once a week and then exercise 2-3 more days a week on my own, if that. I do not count calories regularly because it is a very bad habit for me, but I know how many calories my body requires to function (note: this is different for everyone! Please calculate your own BMR and TDEE and even IIFYM to understand what your body requires to function daily instead of using someone else’s numbers!). I follow a 5k training app and do strength circuits given to me by my trainer. I normally don’t exercise for more than 45 minutes to an hour, sometimes I only go for 30 minutes. It just depends on the day and how my body is feeling.

I’m so sorry that I never responded to this when you sent it to me. I just realized it was in my inbox as I’ve been on mobile for at least five days now. I sincerely apologize.

Anyways, here’s my thought on this and I hope it’s not too late.

With your parents, just don’t eat with them! Make your own food! Boil some chicken or throw it in the oven or do some pork chops or something. Eat a giant salad with eggs and nuts on it. Throw some green beans in a pot — it takes like 10 minutes to cook. On days your family eats take out, just make something simple and easy! You just have to look up recipes or basically make plain-looking meals. One time I boiled chicken and some pasta and put a touch of garden salsa on it and it was freaking delicious.

With your friend, I’m not really sure why you’d be concerned about letting them know you’re wanting to lose weight. It’s not something to be ashamed of at all! Unless you’re already underweight or you’re taking unhealthy measures to lose weight. On days like this, and assuming you’re not doing this unhealthily, you have two options: 1) eat the pizza and have fun because it’s only one night and will not kill you at all or 2) tell her you’d rather have something else and throw out ideas until you come to an agreement. And if she finds out it’s because you wanna lose weight, big whoop. She’s gonna figure it out eventually.