Of course there's already people pissed off about Lydia and Negan's interaction in the episode, and trying to say he was "manipulating her and being an abuser" so here's a couple of points to consider.
1. Did Negan say the wrong thing to her at the beginning of the episode where he offers her food? Yes absolutely. Did he say it to hurt her? No. He was trying to relate to her and offer comfort as the only other person there who knew her mom.
2. Negan literally does not ever say that Lydia should forgive Alpha, or defend Alpha's abuse of her at all. He just said that bottling up her feelings about Alpha was not good for her and she needed to confront them. I'm not sure that it was the right time for her to do that, but bad timing doesn't mean that Negan is being manipulative or abusive.
3. And in that same vein, @ people saying he was being abusive um did you...ya know watch the episode?
4. Negan had good intentions even though he did handle the situation wrong. If you don't have abusive parents or have experience around people who do odds are you're going to say something stupid at some point, I have personal experience with this. Saying something stupid doesn't make you a bad person or an abuser and isn't manipulation.
5. Negan realized what he did wrong and wanted Lydia to tell him what the right thing to do was for her, he asked her twice.
6. Maybe giving her space would have been better, but his intentions were good and he was trying to help her. Negan isn't a damn therapist, but he and Daryl are the best Lydia is going to get in the apocalypse and saying he's being manipulative or abusive is just 😒
