#transmisogyny-

The media hyperfeminizes us by accompanying stories about trans women with pictures of us putting on makeup, dresses, and high-heeled shoes in an attempt to highlight the supposed “frivolous” nature of our femaleness, or by portraying trans women as having derogatory feminineassociated character traits such as being weak, confused, passive, or mousy.

The media hypersexualizes us by creating the impression that most trans women are sex workers or sexual deceivers, and by asserting that we transition for primarily sexual reasons (e.g., to prey on innocent straight men or to fulfill some kind of bizarre sex fantasy). Such depictions not only belittle trans women’s motives for transitioning, but implicitly suggest that women as a whole have no worth beyond their ability to be sexualized.

The media objectifies our bodies by sensationalizing sex reassignment surgery and openly discussing our “man-made vaginas” without any of the discretion that normally accompanies discussions about genitals. Further, those of us who have not had surgery are constantly being reduced to our body parts, whether by the creators of tranny porn who overemphasize and exaggerate our penises (thus distorting trans women into “she-males” and “chicks with dicks”) or by other people who have been so brainwashed by phallocentricism that they believe that the mere presence of a penis can trump the femaleness of our identities, our personalities, and the rest of our bodies.

scroll down a little on my blog & you’ll see the tweet im referring to

as for the f*ta and pedophilia, that’s older discourse & i don’t really have any sources on it, but if anyone knows then feel free to add onto this post

(anon w/ the friend) The thing is, though, she’s identified as bisexual, albeit with a strong preference for men (which is totally valid. I’m not mad about that at all) Now, I was wondering how she can be so lesbophobic (there have been other instances where she’s actually said things, but not often), and still ID as bi, but then I read some stuff about internalized lesbophobia, and felt kind of bad for her. I want to help her accept herself and become more accepting of others, but (continued)

(anon w/ friend) I don’t feel comfortable around her, because aside from being lesbophobic, she’s also a low-key TERF. I don’t really know what to do here, do you have any suggestions? Thanks

A lesbophobe is no friend to a lesbian, and her being bisexual does not absolve her of her lesbophobia or transmisogyny. If you’re uncomfortable, I’d say to do what it takes to be more comfortable - spending less time around her, voicing your concerns, even cutting things off if need be. I know it sucks to lose a friend, but if she’s really a friend she’ll care about your comfort level.