#transmigrant

In less than 3 days, I’ve heard 2 cases of trans running away from their homes to Thailand thinking it’s much safer than where they came from. Their perception of safe spaces comes from what the media and social spaces portray.

The fact that there’s no guide to transitioning is terrible and even more so that no credible information is out there to guide them along their journey.

I’m frustrated, upset and helpless in situations where people reach out and yet there’s limitations to how much I can do to help.

Trans people have to understand transitioning doesn’t happen overnight and having their gender marker change is not the same as living a ‘new’ life. Our problems will accumulate and follow us during the journey and won’t go away until we confront them.

Let’s face it, whether we’re stealth or out, our past will continue bothering till the day we acknowledge this is us, and it is our past that makes us who we are today.

Coming out or being stealth is a personal choice. What’s important is reconciling with their past and who they were before becoming the present them. Is it necessary to put on a facade to please people and society while hurting oneself? Can one be truly happy while being ashamed of who they are?

Is it really worth it putting ourselves down in order to gain tolerance?