Griffith wants a friend that is equal to him, but I never really pictured him as a guy who wants to be equal to anyone.
Yeah I think this is a pretty common conception of Griffith tbh. Iām not sure exactly why you feel this way, but Iāve seen lots of people taking it as read that heās like, power-obsessed, or a control freak, and that impacts how they see his character.
But I donāt see that at all tbh. Iām going to like, rly briefly summarize how I feel, bc I have a lot of long versions that expand on these points (eg here and here and ofc here if you want the nearly thesis length take lol) if you want more explanation.
Basically Griffith wants power for a reason. He doesnāt want power for the sake of power, he wants power to achieve a goal, a goal that he feels he needs to achieve because of guilt.
A significant aspect of Griffithās narrative is about how being a leader, being responsible for lives, being distant from everyone who follows him so he can maintain an image, etc, is a burden that takes a huge emotional toll on him.
Griffith is kind of trapped in this paradigm of control and being controlled. He has to be in control for the sake of his dream, in control of himself, in control of others as a leader, but again like, a big point of his narrative is that itās a burden on him, and at least subconsciously, he wants out. Being a leader who always has to portray the correct image isolates him, being responsible for lives lost fills him with guilt, and heās stuck because his entire sense of worth revolves around achieving his dream.
And by being controlled Iām referring to the way fate absolves him of guilt, and how he learns it was his destiny and everything heās ever done was puppeteered by God and heās nothing more than a pawn, etc. This holds true even as Femto and NeoGriffith, kind of ironically - at his most powerful he is aware that he has no control at all. Like, most of NeoGriffithās apparent powers seem to be just this intrinsic knowledge that whatever he wants to do is what heās destined to do, and therefore he canāt be harmed or stopped or prevented from doing what he wants.
(Thereās probably also something to be said about Griffithās powerlessness post-torture, but idk that basically boils down to Griffith still being responsible for that mountain of corpses, but not having the power to follow through and justify it. control vs no power, vs say ngriffās power but no control. idk this is too long already lol, vague musing on that is enough for now.)
Umm okay to get back to my point, basically imo Griffith is kind of pushed and pulled between the burden of having too much control and the paradoxical freedom of having no control, and his desire for an equal seems to me to be like, an escape from these two extremes. Someone whose life he doesnāt control, who pursues their own reason for being, who Griffith canāt order to their death, who Griffith doesnāt have to wear a mask for - and someone who would fight him if their dreams ever clashed. Valuable as a friend and as an enemy as someone independent of him, who he has no power over and who has no power over him - or who they each have an equal amount of emotional power over.
Lol okay this was all very theme-y rather than based on characterization. So as for like, actual depictions of Griffith wanting Guts as an equal, you have moments like asking him to kill Julius rather than ordering him, the water fight, āitās funny⦠youāre the first person Iāve ever spoken to like thisā after explaining his thoughts on fate and wanting to know what heās destined for, ādo you think that Iām cruel?ā, refusing to rein him in during battle to Cascaās consternation, reminiscing fondly on the duel he almost lost, risking his life and dream for Guts, basically his emotional dependence on him in general.
And wrt his tantrum when Guts leaves, often cited as Griffithās control-freakiness at work lol, itās actually another instance of Griffith wanting Guts as an equal, but compilcated by knowing that the reality of their relationship is that Griffith is Gutsā boss, and moreover, he won his loyalty in a fight. He has a breakdown because he sees Guts leaving as a rejection and a statement on their entire relationship - he thinks Guts only stayed with him because Griffith won that duel, and it horrifies him and affirms his belief that heās cruel, but also narrows his options down to ālet him go or win him in another duelā lol, when what he actually wants is for Guts to choose to stay because he wants to stay. (Again, Iāve written about this at great length here if you want more evidence for this reading.)
so that wasnāt as short as I was hoping it would be lmao. But yeah basically the way I see Griffith is that being in control is a burden to him, and he wants an equal/friend because he wants someone whose life he doesnāt control to know him and freely choose him, not as a figurehead but as a person. And he wanted that someone to be Guts.