Have you ever heard of “soul ties”?

As I grow older, I realize there are so many things we allow to go over our heads. We fail to seriously ponder and excogitate the things that seem to have little influence on us but in reality, they shape our every thoughts and actions. Case in point: our relationships.

Every person in your life, you have some type of relationship with albeit work, personal, or family. It is safe to say that some of these relationships are worthwhile while others can be classified as detrimental.

I finally researched the definition of a “soul tie” this past Tuesday and … it freaked me out! The meaning behind it was so powerful and accurate, I immediately began to pray asking God to renounce and sever any and every bad soul tie I may have had with any ex-lover or friend. There was a tie in particular I asked God to release me of and that was my old high school sweetheart, to whom I’ve been off and on with since 11th grade.

About a month ago, I changed my phone number because I wanted to just “start over”. And it’s weird because after reading about soul ties on Tuesday and asking God to release me from them, that next day, there was a follower request on my Instagram from that same ex requesting to follow me. Smh. (I can write about how the enemy will always try to trip you up when you attempt to walk with God but thats a whole nother post.) I stared at that request for three days wondering if I should allow my ex to follow me, but then I came across Heather Lindsey’s blog entry on January 28 about “letting go”. Take a look:

"Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Letting Go…..

With tears in my eyes, I remember sitting in a church service next to a man that I really wanted to marry and hearing the Lord say: “Heather, he’s not it. I need you to let this go. If you don’t cut this relationship off—it will only get worse.”

But, WHY God?! I did what I thought I knew to do. Yes, we fell.. over & over again. Yes, we disobeyed you. Yes, we had sex outside of marriage. It’s true that I don’t feel my best in this relationship but Lord, I really want him to be the one. I don’t want to start all over with anyone else new! I wanted to have all of his babies and work through lifes struggles. I have always had this “make it happen” attitude about life and I just knew that if I repented and did what I knew to do to make it right, maybe things could work.

But I continued to hear this voice whisper to me in the midst of my rationalization. Let it go.

So, we went to this little restaurant after church and I had this plastered smile on my face as I greeted people leaving church. They have no clue. They think that our relationship is perfect on paper and from what they can see, but deep in my spirit man, the Lord has made it so clear to me that he aint it, we’ve made each other idols & I am no longer serving the Jesus although I’m doing all of the church things; like serving at church & attending.

As we headed towards the restaurant, I made light talk, but deep down, these scriptures were ringing in my heart.

John 14:15 “If you love me, obey my commandments.

Exodus 34:14 You must worship no other gods, for the LORD, whose very name is Jealous, is a God who is jealous about his relationship with you.

Isaiah 2:22 Don’t put your trust in mere humans. They are as frail as breath. What good are they?

If I really loved God, I would break things off because clearly, this relationship has turned from “excitement to pretend love to lust to dysfunction to idolatry.” How did this happen?

1. We refused to set boundaries & continued to play house. 2. Whenever God told me to not go over to his house or vice versa—I rationalized. I mean, he’s a good guy. He goes to church. He says he loves you Lord & I miss him… 3. Our purposes didn’t line up. But I was so desperate for a relationship that I was ignoring the obvious. 4. I had no peace. It was manufactured peace. I was trying to believe this lie that everything was ok but I knew deep down that it wasn’t right. 5. I wanted a man more than I wanted Gods presence. Thus, the relationship was dysfunctional.

So, we broke up that day at that restaurant. Was it hard? Umm. YES. I had to seriously guard my heart. I purposed to NOT to hang out in groups with him anymore. Not to entertain any texting, calling, or whatever else. You see, I had a pretty strong soul tie with him & if I didn’t let God rip that crap out of me, I would have gone back or became depressed. With my emotions totally raging, I told God that I needed help. That I needed Him. That I needed change. That I was sick and tired of being sick & tired. That I needed wholeness. That I needed peace. I would pull scriptures about my worry, discontentment & fear and I would STARE at them for HOURS. I would fast from social media and fight back those negative thoughts that were contrary to Gods word. You see, God will heal you. He will absolutely do His part. But how can God heal you if you don’t let Him? How can God heal you when you keep surrounding yourself around that person? I understand if you have a child by him— so deal with him concerning your child & nothing else— but you know what I mean. You may just go over to his house.. one more time.. text, one more time.. this or that.. one more time. Babygirl, don’t tell yourself that lie, you are only making it HARDER for yourself to really let go.

I blogged on “We just broke up, now what?” But… if God is telling you to let go of a bad relationship, a friend, or whatever else—know that He is protecting you. There’s been a fork in the road and that person isn’t going where you are going. After God removes people, you may go through what seems like a really quiet, dry season. During this season, God is preparing you and those people that used to be in your life weren’t qualified to continued life with you. So, let Him lead you. I know it’s hard but what other option do we have? Let not make any more excuses of “easier said than done.” Lets instead say, God—I trust you. Lord, I need you. Lord, help me. Lord, I’m lonely. Lord, make me whole. Lord, break my heart until it breathes your heart. God, help me.

God loves you like crazy, Heather Lindsey

Today With the Lindsey’s”

This blog entry touched me on a completely different level. She not only spoke on soul ties but on people’s purposes not matching up, and on us making idols of one another. It’s like Heather tapped into my brain and wrote about the same issues me and this man were having. Or better yet - the same issues I was having with this man. This man I knew for nine, going on ten years. I bet to this day, he has no clue why I up and decided we weren’t going to work; that I couldn’t deal with him anymore; that I didn’t even want to talk to him or be friends with him. The fact that “he is somebody else’s husband” as Heather put it.. Because he was not and is not My Adam…

Be careful who you allow into your life and who you decide to have a soul tie with. If God has told you “that is not your friend” or “she is not your wife” renounce that soul tie immediately and run. That person is not for you.