#the acecourse

it is an overall issue, because the tumblr ace and aro communities have a tendency to target gay sexuality and gay romance specifically when they make ace/aro vent posts, as well as making “jokes” such as that aids one that are clearly targeting gay people 

and they do all that while simultaneously demonizing the lgbt people that say that being ace/aro doesnt inherently make you lgbt and saying that they hate gay people for being “aphobic” 

some evidence of this that ive seen:

http://chikkou.tumblr.com/post/154995239225/buckzy-munitiablastpaw-pesmenos-all-you

http://chikkou.tumblr.com/post/154689509430/sjws-against-anime-guys-who-want-to-fuck-women

http://chikkou.tumblr.com/post/153993513585/mooncryptid-babyfairy-autistic-dr-who-oh

http://chikkou.tumblr.com/post/151033682360/discourseful-huntresskaisa-hatekeeping

http://chikkou.tumblr.com/post/150914656540/valteuil-theouterspaceace-gatekeepers-claim

http://chikkou.tumblr.com/post/149048776975/itsdiscoursetime-violetdiscourse-you-can (this case is specifically egregious because this particular person, who is a grown ass adult, attempted - and i believe succeeded - in doxxing a gay minor and outing them to their extremely homophobic and abusive parents, and all because said minor stated that they didnt believe that ace people were inherently lgbt) 

i am particularly concerned about the popular metaphor likening sex to food, because it implies that allosexual people need sex to live which is absolutely not true.

sex is very important to many people, it can be a critical part of a romantic relationship, and breaking up a partnership due to sexual incompatibility is completely reasonable. it does not, however, justify demanding sex, and it definitely does not justify cheating. being aroused does not shut off a person's brain and make them unable to control themselves.

allosexual people are also not necessarily interested in hookups. just because someone is attracted to people they do not know does not mean they are down to have sex with them. sex can be very intimate and emotional and plenty of people are not interested in sharing that vulnerability with strangers. (some people are, and that's great for them! but i do not think they are the majority by any stretch)