#tarot tips

It’s fine I’m not uncomfortable with this question! I use to do them before I got more anons acting really aggressive and took them way too seriously so I don’t post them anymore. I usually avoid physical type stuff for the fact my deck usually have animals so imagery isn’t that helpful and it kinda feels mean to do that to someone I don’t really know and could end up hurting someone.

Tips:

I say this all the time but we have to read tarot with a clear mind. I don’t think you should go into the reading where you want to be liked by that person so much, I get being curious about it but if you know it’s going to upset you or you fear what the answer will be then I think you should prioritize yourself to back away from that since that kind of mindset will limit you

Ask really specific questions and ask for clarification with yes/no or for positive/negative meanings. Look at the symbolism and imagery in the card and ask which parts that stand out to you

Pulling up pictures/videos of different types of people, pointing out traits and asking your deck what they associate it with helps a lot. You can also do this while asking for whoever’s type you want. I do suggest not just choosing celebrities, actors, models if it’s someone you know irl

If you have any confirmation on exes when it comes to someone you know irl, ask what traits that made them drawn to them

Some might come off as unhealthy like jealous, overbearing, tyrannical etc. Don’t look at it as a black and white situation where they like “bad” or “evil.” There are things that everyone likes that can be unhealthy and we should be honest about it. Kinks and fetishes where it’s thrilling that it’s seen as abnormal and offputting is the point too so don’t discount those even when you don’t get it yourself

Cups = emotions + emotional connection

Wands = passion + sexual compatibility/desire

Swords = communication + mental connection

Pentacles = stability + finances + long-term commitment + respect + duty

Ideally you would have a balanced amount of each suit in a relationship reading, as this typically indicates a healthy and balanced relationship… which is required to make things last in the long run (with both people feeling fulfilled)

Cups + wands = everything is intense, emotions are heightened, relationship may be purely physical. Both parties have wildly different needs or expectations for the relationship. One may be more emotionally invested while the other

Cups + swords = there’s a great emotional connection, and the communication is mind-blowing, but you’re probably not having really great sex… if you are, one of you doesn’t alway finish, and the other person might be kind of fast/selfish… you guys probably only talk about your emotions with each other, and there’s likely a mother/son or father/daughter thing going on that isn’t super sexy or stable in the long run.

Cups + pentacles = old married couple vibes. Stable and emotionally fulfilling, but you have to schedule sex once a week or you’ll forget to have it. Typical (non-abusive) hetero relationship you’re used to seeing on tv.

Wands + swords = can be cute. It’s giving polyamory, or a leo and a libra getting together. Both of you are cheating on the other person lmao.

Wands + pentacles = forrest fire vibes. Wildly unbalanced energy, kind of toxic tbh. One of you is boring, and the other is clinically insane.

Swords + pentacles = arranged marriage vibes, or “I’m mainly doing this because it’s what I think I’m supposed to be doing”.

For yes/no questions like “is he cheating on me” or “is he talking to someone else” pull a simple line of 3 or line of 5.

Pulling any more than 5 cards for these questions is going to do you far more harm than good. New readers might think that more cards = more details—which can sometimes be true—but it’s important in these situations to get a clear and decisive answer, hence the limit of 5 cards MAX for these readings.

You’ll find the best luck if you read these spreads from left to right as a story, instead of assigning a meaning to each card like “past, present, future” etc.

For other questions, or to get a more comprehensive overview of the relationship itself, use the following 3-18 card spread. Be absolutely certain to limit yourself to 9 cards per question!

As with before, if you want a clear and concise answer, you don’t need to be pulling half the cards out of your deck lmao.

When doing celebrity readings I do alter the spread linked above, where I do 3 groups of 6 cards instead of 2 groups of 9 cards. These cards are all read as a story, still, with the first group of 6 showing the beginning, the 2nd group being the middle, and the 3rd group showing the end. This is also a variation of the story spread I have shared on my substack—obviously in celebrity readings I’m not searching for problems or protagonists, so things had to be adjusted.

Some of the cards meanings in relationship readings:

7 of wands = one party always feeling “on guard” or defensive with the other person.

The devil = INTENSE lust, destructive or harmful relationship, and a relationship you feel addicted to.

Knight of pentacles = someone serious and focused on work, a cautious partner who is loyal, stubborn, and trustworthy.

The lovers = fated soulmate, romantic love, and/or balance.

Strength reversed = fear, power plays/games.

Page of cups = a new relationship or phase in relationship.

King of wands = fickle in love—he’s passionate and charismatic, yet typically unreliable and/or inconsistent.

Knight of wands = fickle in love… fuck boy energy… he’s rash and insensitive.

Judgement = a new phase, something inevitable.

The world = fulfillment + celebration.

4 of pentacles = someone protective and/or possessive.

3 of swords = betrayal, loss, lies, heartbreak, grief, and abandonment.

2 of cups = your chosen soulmate. A committed partnership.

5 of pentacles = partner who will stick by your side through any terrible thing… or someone who’s abandoned you… depending on the cards surrounding it.

9 of cups = wish fulfilled—partner who checks every single box on your list.

8 of cups = emotional distance, and searching for fulfillment elsewhere.

Emperor = stable and powerful partner.

5 of swords = betrayal, cheating, unfairness, etc. This card is the “cheating on purpose card” where the other person had everything planned out in advance, knew what they were doing was going to hurt you, and chose to do it anyway.

3 of pentacles = you make a great team, or he’s cheating on you with a coworker.

4 of wands = weddings, engagements, committed and happy relationships, milestones, meeting the parents, etc.

7 of swords = deception, treachery, carelessness. This is the “cheating on a whim/while drunk” card.

5 of cups = emptiness and despair.

Queen of wands = HOT person.

7 of cups = illusions, imagination, and OPTIONS

Knight of swords = aggressive, overbearing, harsh truths.

4 of swords = exhaustion… they think you’re exhausting…

10 of wands = burdened, can’t see or think clearly.

6 of cups = nostalgic, childish, etc.

Ace of wands = one night stand/fwb card.

9 of swords = guilt, anguish, regret.

Start by separating the card from the picture on it. The Ten of Swords is not a body in the dirt; it is the bottom of something, the point where a thing is finished and the only direction left is up. The Tower is not the querent's house on fire; it is a structure that was already cracked coming down so they stop living inside a lie. Read the meaning you actually know, not the worst image the art suggests.

Then read it as a condition, not a verdict. A hard card describes a pressure, a pattern, or the likely result if nothing changes. It almost never describes a fixed event the person is powerless to touch. Your work is to find where they still have movement and point at it honestly, without pretending the pressure is not there.

That changes how it leaves your mouth. Not you are going to lose the job, but this shows real strain on the work and here is what the cards say is driving it. Not the relationship is dead, but this position is heavy with swords, which is the head and not the heart, so what is the conflict you are not naming. You are opening a conversation, not handing down a sentence.

Hold a line you do not cross. Most working readers do not predict death, serious illness, pregnancy loss, or catastrophe, even when they feel something in that direction. That is outside what cards can responsibly do, and it can do real harm to someone who believes you. If a person is in a situation that needs a doctor, a lawyer, or a crisis line, the honest reading is to say so and send them there.

And do not lie to spare them. Sugarcoating a reading is its own kind of disrespect; it treats the person as too fragile to hear the thing they came for. The skill is not softening the message, it is delivering the true one with care, in language that leaves them their agency. Tell them what you see, tell them where the leverage is, and let them decide what to do with it.

0 · The Fool — the part where you leap before you're ready. terrifying. necessary. you will not regret it.

I · The Magician — the part where you realize you already have everything you need. you've been waiting for permission that was never coming.

II · The High Priestess — the part where you go quiet. stop explaining yourself. start trusting the thing you know but can't prove.

III · The Empress — the part where you soften. create. receive. let yourself be nourished without earning it first.

IV · The Emperor — the part where you build structure that actually serves you, not structure that keeps you contained.

V · The Hierophant — the part where you question everything you were taught to believe without question.

VI · The Lovers — the part where you choose. not between two people. between two versions of yourself.

VII · The Chariot — the part where you move. fast. with everything you have. and you don't stop to make sure everyone approves first.

VIII · Strength — the part where you discover that the thing you were most afraid of was actually the thing that was trying to protect you.

IX · The Hermit — the part where you disappear for a while. the part that looks like stagnation from the outside and feels like excavation from the inside.

X · Wheel of Fortune — the part that happens to you. the part you didn't plan. the turning point that only makes sense later.

XI · Justice — the part where you reckon with what you've done and what's been done to you. the part that asks you to be honest.

XII · The Hanged Man — the part where nothing moves and somehow that's the point. the part that only ends when you stop fighting it.

XIII · Death — the part where something ends completely. the part people fear and the part that makes everything after it possible.

XIV · Temperance — the part where you learn to hold opposing things without needing to resolve them. the long slow integration.

XV · The Devil — the part where you look at what you're chained to and realize the chains aren't locked. the part where you choose the cage anyway, and finally understand why.

XVI · The Tower — the part that breaks everything open. the part you couldn't have planned for. the before and the after.

XVII · The Star — the part after the Tower. quiet. tender. the part where hope comes back in and it feels different this time — earned.

XVIII · The Moon — the part that's all shadow and illusion and the thing you thought you'd already dealt with surfacing again at 3am.

XIX · The Sun — the part where it's genuinely, simply good. the part you almost don't trust because you've been waiting for the catch.

XX · Judgement — the part where you hear the call and this time you answer it. the part where you stop pretending you don't know what you're meant to do.

XXI · The World — the part where it's complete. not perfect. complete. the part where you finally understand what the journey was for.

Here's the rest of your year 🥳

But since you likely know how to read tarot too, I encourage you to perform your own reading by doing it the way I did in the video. (It's an official "spread" precisely for long time periods.)

I further encourage you to record your reading, like you're from the future talking to your present self.

Then watch the video on January 1, 2027.

This is how I interpret this suit in personal readings, with the meanings adapted to match the context of the question. Here is why I don’t do the same in general readings.

Ace of Swords

Upright: You will win through great force (great love or great hate).

Reversed: Great force will be used successfully against you.

Two of Swords

Upright: You will lead a harmonious but unglorious life.

Reversed: You will lead a life of dishonesty, lacking dignity.

Three of Swords

Upright: You will fail in three different aspects of your life.

Reversed: The failure will occur only internally, in your own mind.

Four of Swords

Upright: You will lead a peaceful life and enjoy a painless death.

Reversed: You will be blinded, literally or metaphorically.

Five of Swords

Upright: Expect dishonor upon you and/or your family.

Reversed: Expect your victory to bring dishonor upon an enemy.

Six of Swords

Upright: International travel or relocation will bring you luck.

Reversed: A curse, literal or metaphorical, is blocking your success.

Seven of Swords

Upright: Your overconfidence will cause your failure.

Reversed: Someone will bring you information against your enemy.

Eight of Swords

Upright: Expect bad news about violence or illness.

Reversed: A hidden enemy will cause you unexpected losses.

Nine of Swords

Upright: A loved one will die. If pregnant, you will miscarry.

Reversed: Expect imprisonment, literal or metaphorical.

Ten of Swords

Upright: Something will make you feel you'd rather die. Actual death if paired with Death.

Reversed: You will profit from someone’s death or failure.

Page of Swords

Upright: Someone is spying on you, in real life or on social media.

Reversed: You will be caught spying on someone, and it will bring shame.

Knight of Swords

Upright: A war could result in your ruin. War being either personal or official.

Reversed: Your impulsiveness will ruin a part of your life.

Queen of Swords

Upright: Expect to be widowed. A confirmation of your infertility.

Reversed: A malicious, powerful woman is working against you.

King of Swords

Upright: A man will have full power over you and your happiness.

Reversed: A cruel man will have full power over you and your happiness.