If you care at all about people who have anxiety, autism, OCD, CPTSD, or any other number of "ruminating," "nervous," and "catastrophizing" conditions or dispositions, you need to abandon this phrase and others like it IMMEDIATELY:
"I need to talk, give me a call."
The PROBLEM isn't the request, it's ambiguity and unnecessary room to worry. Here's a little help, for the confused and ambiguous communicating types:
❌ "We need to talk."
✅ "Can we talk? I've been thinking about what you shared last night and I'd like to tell you more about my perspective."
❌ "Have you looked at your email yet?"
✅ "Did you see the email about the flight change? We'll need to update our plans."
❌ "Please come see me sometime today."
✅ "Do you have time to swing by my office and to go over the report? I have some feedback before it gets sent out."
❌ "Give me a call when you have a sec."
✅ "Can you call me so we can talk about when to meet to plan the presentation?"
❌ "When can we talk?"
✅ "When can we catch up? I miss you!"
GUESS WHAT???? Being kind not cryptic does mean saying/typing/sending MORE words vs. less. And that's fine--just say/type/send them. Your choice to take 2 minutes instead of 15 seconds will be a HUGE weight of mental load off your anxious receiver. You may save them hours or days of ruminating/worrying/obsessing.
This is especially important if you have power over them, aka, you are a boss/teacher/parent. Especially because some of these same folks won't feel comfortable saying back to you, "about what?" they'll just go on worrying until you say more. Even if they know they shouldn't. Even if they try their best to "assume positive intent." Even if they take anti anxiety or other mental health meds to help.
INTERESTINGLY, I have also heard people who say they cannot stand it when someone does this to them DO IT TO OTHERS because they forget that it sounds cryptic as fuck and they only remember their own firsthand experience. You may know that when you texted "When can we talk?" you are happily reaching out to chit chat, but they might hear it as "something's wrong in our relationship and it's so bad I'm not going to say it until we talk" and then they are wracking their brains to figure out "what they did wrong" when the answer is literally fucking nothing.
Clarity is kindness.
Taking 2 minutes and using a few more words can truly make all the difference to someone else.
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Can you do Dan Heng, Jing Yuan, Blade, Ratio and Boothill with a reader who is like Ganyu from genshin impact?
Silent Strength, Endless Light
Tags: Dan Heng x Reader, Jing Yuan x Reader, Boothill x Reader, Blade x Reader, Ratio x Reader, Ganyu (from Genshin Impact) based Reader, Mild Romance, Respectful Admiration, Slow Burn/Subtle Chemistry, Mild Angst (Mainly Self-doubt, Anxiety), Supportive Relationships, Mild Humor (Awkwardness, Flustered Moments).
Warnings: Mild Language (very minimal or implied), Mild Anxiety/Nervousness, Minor Mentions of Violence (?), Emotional Vulnerability, Possible Mentions Of Trauma (Boothill and Blade backstories).
You clutch the scroll in your hands, bowing lightly. "Dan Heng, the reports for the patrol routes are... ready. I may have overlooked one detail, but I triple-checked the coordinates," you say quietly, cheeks warming as his cool, focused gaze meets yours.
Dan Heng’s expression softens just a touch. “It’s fine. You don’t have to be so hard on yourself.” He tilts his head, faintly amused by your shy, nervous demeanor. “I respect how you handle everything carefully, even if you get flustered.” He leans slightly closer, lowering his voice. “You don’t have to carry the world alone.”
Your heart stumbles, but you bow again. “I just want to help as much as I can… Even if I make mistakes.” You bite your lip, embarrassed, hoping he doesn’t notice your slight tremble.
Dan Heng nods once, sincerely. “I’ve seen worse. You have more strength than you think.”
You arrange the papers meticulously on Jing Yuan’s desk, mindful of the armor clinking softly as he watches you from his seat, eyes sharp yet gentle. “General Jing Yuan, the latest diplomatic proposals... are here,” you whisper, bowing, suddenly aware of the imposing figure before you.
He chuckles softly, “No need to be so formal around me.” His voice is warm but carries that unmistakable authority. “You’ve done well, considering your nerves.”
You glance away, cheeks flaming. “I just... I always want to do better. But I’m afraid my pacing isn’t enough.”
Jing Yuan’s gaze softens as he stands, reaching out to lightly adjust the accessory in your hair—a small gesture that makes your breath hitch. “Your dedication is what matters most. Even I was once new and unsure. Keep this up, and you’ll outpace us all.”
Your voice catches, “Thank you, General. I-I’ll try my best.”
In the dim, quiet workshop where Blade sharpens his broken sword, you approach hesitantly, clutching a bundle of scrolls filled with tactical reports. “Blade, I-I brought the updates... I hope they’re... useful.”
His eyes flash with curiosity beneath his long hair. “You don’t have to be so timid. Speak up.”
You nod quickly, voice barely above a whisper. “I-I’m always worried I’ll slow things down… or forget something important.”
Blade’s lips curl into a rare, slight smile. “You’re like a breeze on a hot day—quiet, but steady. Don’t underestimate yourself.”
You glance at his bandaged arms and the cracks on his sword, feeling a swell of sympathy and respect. “I admire your strength… even when you seem broken.”
Blade looks away, voice low. “Strength can be a curse. But maybe... your kindness is my salvation.”
You enter the grand library of the Intelligentsia Guild, bowing as Ratio looks up from his texts, hair falling over one intense eye. “Dr. Ratio, I have the latest research notes... I’m sorry if some are incomplete. I’m still learning,” you say softly, hands trembling.
He studies you, eyes gleaming with intellectual fire. “Don’t apologize for being earnest. Most wouldn’t dare to seek knowledge so humbly.”
You blush deeply. “I’m just afraid I’m too slow or forgetful.”
Ratio stands, adjusting his owl-shaped shoulder pieces. “That’s the mark of a true scholar—recognizing one’s limits and striving beyond. Come, I’ll help you sharpen your mind. Together, we can illuminate the darkest corners.”
Your breath catches at his rare kindness. “I-I would like that very much.”
In the quiet of the frontier bar, you nervously approach Boothill, noticing the mechanical parts of his torso and the steely glint in his black eyes. “Boothill, I’ve gathered the intel from the latest IPC movements,” you whisper, hands wringing the papers.
He grins, sharp teeth flashing. “Ain’t used to folks coming to me so meekly. You got guts, I’ll give you that.”
Your cheeks flare red. “I-I just want to help... I don’t want anyone else to suffer like you did.”
Boothill’s expression softens—just a bit. “Heh. That means more than you know. You keep working like this, sugar, and maybe we’ll tip the scales.”
You exhale shakily, feeling a rare warmth amid the harshness of his world. “I’ll do my best. I swear it.”
I would like to request some fluffy established relationship headcanons for Aven, Phainon and Stella (my queen 🤲🐥💛🥹) hehe, take your time with this req! 🤭🫶💖
Information : My "fluffy" Established Relationship headcanons! It's been several years since I've written a request, I hope this is to your satisfaction, my Beloved. I’m sure it’s somewhat ooc, and I apologize if it’s chaotic or repetitive! 🥲💙🫶
Tags : Fluff, Emotional vulnerability, Doubt, Comfort, Established Relationship, Intimacy, mutual respect, supportive relationships, gentle affection, etc. I'm terrible at tags.
Subject: Aventurine | Love Language: Gift giving
Aventurine’s love language is unmistakably rooted in "gift-giving." He is a man who equates his self-worth with his financial success, and there’s a certain joy that radiates from him when he showers you with lavish presents. Each carefully chosen gift is not just an object; it symbolizes his affection and desire to indulge you, reinforcing his sense of pride and fulfillment in the relationship.
He is a man who possesses an uncanny ability to read your gaze, effortlessly guiding you through the vibrant store aisles filled with colorful fabrics and stylish garments. As he strolls alongside you, his keen eye catches sight of various pieces of clothing, and he eagerly presents them to you, his enthusiasm infectious. If you express even the slightest interest in a particular item, he insists on purchasing it for you, his generosity unwavering, no matter the cost.
Should you politely decline his offer, he remains undeterred. With a patient smile, he waits for a moment when your attention is elsewhere, and by the morning light, you might discover the very piece of clothing you hesitated over, neatly folded on your bed as if waiting for you. Alternatively, you may receive a discreet text message, a playful hint teasing you about a delightful surprise eagerly awaiting you once you complete your work or studies.
He is a man who takes pride in flaunting you as his own, to the point where it sometimes borders on possessiveness. With a broad grin, he delights in the attention you attract, wrapping his arm around your waist in public and speaking with intention—louder so that those around you can hear. He clings desperately to his last chip, fully aware that without his luck, he feels lost. Without you, what does he have left? You belong to him, just as he belongs to you. It will take time for him to embrace himself, as he is already capable of doing for you.
He is a man whose every intention is to make you feel beautiful, help you stand out, and remind himself that you belong to him. He struggles to understand the concept of love and the idea of someone truly cherishing him. To him, you are a gamble, a thrill he cannot resist, no matter how hard he once tried. He is completely wrapped around your finger.
He is a man who once believed that he could rely solely on his good fortune, as he felt he had nothing else to offer. Or rather, he once had nothing. Now, however, he has more to lose than ever before: you. You have become his top priority for as long as your relationship continues.
He is a man who misses his partner dearly, finding that every little detail in his life somehow reminds him of you. Little by little, he begins to enjoy his life again; every gamble he wins becomes money to be spent on you. You have become his reason for living. Each time he is able to care for his own needs, he feels secure, knowing that you are happiest when he is healthy. You make him whole, serving as a beacon of light in his once-darkened world of solitude. In your presence, he often drops his usual confident facade and smooth talk; whether through his words or actions, he becomes more genuine. He may speak less, carefully choosing his words to ensure they are sincere rather than deceptive.
He is a man who endlessly praises your body and your character. He possesses a genuine love that is free from fabrication or deceit; he truly treasures it. Surprisingly, he is more hesitant when it comes to receiving physical touch than one might expect. In a committed relationship, every move he makes is carefully calculated to elicit a reaction from you. He kisses your fingers delicately, appreciates your every imperfection, and gently trails his kisses toward your knuckles before resting his forehead against the back of your hand.
He is a man who melts into your embrace over time. At first, his body may feel stiff when you take him into your arms, but soon a wave of ease washes over him, and he returns the embrace with an amused comment laced with desire. He craves your arms wrapped around him. His eyes may close as he sinks deeper into your frame, feeling safe. Whether he is the one protecting you or the other way around, he is content to relish this moment. He allows himself to feel the warmth, care, and love that come from a true partner—someone who has seen him at his worst and loves him all the same.
He is a man who takes every chance to whisk you away on a luxurious adventure. While he enjoys shopping during your dates, he gradually introduces you to exquisite meals at sought-after restaurants, all while remembering your favorite dishes for next time. When the moment is right, he confidently orders for you, always with a warm grin.
You | "What if I wanted to try something new today?"
Aventurine | "Then I'd buy you that as well. Who do you take me for?"
Bonus section for @aventurineswife, I'll feel guilty if it's not fluffy enough for you.
He is a man who delights in the sound of your laughter, cherishing it more than anything else in the world. When he breathes softly against your neck, it sends a thrill down your spine, and then he turns away with a casual, playful air, as if to draw you deeper into his charm. At the sight of you, he can’t help but whistle, a melody that reflects the joy you bring to his life. He has a knack for moments of whimsy, like when he playfully sets his hat atop your head, playfully shielding your eyes from the sun, while also drawing you into a world of shared laughter. In conversations, he removes his sunglasses, allowing his eyes to convey the sincerity of his attentiveness. He leans in closer, captivated by your words and eager to connect on a deeper level, showing that your thoughts and opinions matter to him immensely.
He is the kind of man who would go any distance for your attention, whether it’s a small gesture or a grand romantic act. Although he presents an air of confidence, he can be brought to his knees when you challenge him, and only by you, revealing an endearing vulnerability. He thrives on the banter, enjoying how you keep him on his toes, igniting playful debates that spark chemistry between you. He loves to tease you endlessly, his gentle jabs filled with affection, always knowing exactly how to make you smile. There’s something intoxicating about the way he inhales your scent as he buries his face in the crook of your neck, savoring the moment as if it’s a precious secret. His commitment shines through in the way he makes you wear matching rings, a playful promise that symbolizes a bond evolving toward something even deeper—a future engagement that he envisions with you. He genuinely values your opinions, listening attentively and encouraging you to express yourself freely. When it comes to your body, he sees beauty in every imperfection. He adores your "imperfections" whether they're love handles, moles, stretch marks, birthmarks, or scars, he'll end up interpreting each one as a testament to your beauty, strength and unique story.
He is unapologetically a man in love, celebrating every facet of who you are and embracing the unique qualities that make you, you.
Subject: Phainon | Love Language: Physical touch
Phainon is a man who places a high value on "physical touch;" it is his primary love language. He feels most connected to others through the warmth of hugs, the brush of a hand, and the intimacy of close proximity. For him, these simple gestures convey deep affection and strengthen his emotional bonds with those he cares about.
He is a man who wraps his arms around you gently as you drift off to sleep, providing a warm and comforting presence. With each soothing embrace, he creates a safe haven, making sure you feel protected and cherished throughout the night. His steady breathing and quiet whispers reassure you, helping to quiet any worries that might linger in your mind. In those moments, you can surrender to rest, knowing he will safeguard your dreams with love and care.
He is a man who envelops you in a flurry of affectionate kisses, his lips brushing against your skin with a gentle urgency. Each kiss feels like a promise, as he methodically covers every inch of your body, lingering on your cheeks, forehead, and the curve of your neck, pouring his heart into each moment. As he prepares for a long mission that will take him away from you, he seems to want to memorize the warmth of your skin and the rhythm of your breath, as if these tender moments might sustain you both in the days to come. His kisses are not just physical gestures; they carry a depth of emotion, reminding you that every second spent together is a cherished memory to hold onto during his absence.
He is a man who is thoughtful and devoted. He who willingly adjusts his meticulously planned schedule to accommodate your needs. Despite the demanding responsibilities that come with being the Chrysos heir, a position that often pulls him in numerous directions, he prioritizes your time together. His commitment reflects not only his affection for you but also his determination to make every moment count, regardless of the pressures he faces from his title and the expectations that come with it.
He is a man who clings to the tiniest fragments of your conversations, recalling with fondness the playful exchanges and silly remarks that once made you both laugh. Each lighthearted memory—like your infectious giggle or a shared inside joke—becomes a precious lifeline amid the harsh realities of the battlefield. As he navigates the chaos and uncertainty of combat, he often finds himself lost in daydreams of home, where your smile awaits him. The very thought of not returning to you weighs heavily on his heart, filling him with a determination to survive, so he can once again embrace the safe haven of your presence and relive those cherished moments.
He is a man who takes his role as your partner seriously. As the respected heir of Chrysos, he stands guard over you, ensuring that no one suspicious can approach without his explicit permission. Anyone who seeks to reach you must first navigate through his watchful presence, as he meticulously assesses their intentions, weighing each potential visitor with careful scrutiny before deciding whether to grant them access. His formidable demeanor can be intimidating, but beneath it lies a willingness to respect your wishes. If you desire space or want him to step back, he will readily understand and allow you the freedom you seek, always prioritizing your comfort, often brushing off his protective behavior with humor and affection.
He is a man who effortlessly attuned to the subtle social cues that reveal your emotions. He seems to instinctively know what brings you joy and what makes you uncomfortable, even if you hesitate to share your feelings. His playful nature often shines through as he tells silly jokes, aiming to elicit a smile from you or lighten the mood when he senses any unease.
He is a man who, upon realizing he has upset you or made you feel uncomfortable, instantly transforms into a flurry of apologies. His demeanor shifts noticeably, and you can see the concern etched on his face as he fumbles through his words, striving to express how truly sorry he is for his actions. It’s as if he feels a deep sense of responsibility for your feelings and is eager to make amends, often over-explaining himself in a bid to ensure you understand that it was never his intention to cause you distress. His awkwardness only adds to the sincerity of his remorse, making it clear that he values your feelings profoundly.
Subject: Strelitzia "Stella" | Love Language: Quality time
Strelitzia is a woman known for her striking presence, often opting for silence instead of speech. She values "quality time" with her partner, and her moments of quietude do not stem from a lack of thoughts or feelings. Rather, they reflect a profound depth of character and a keen observant nature.
She is a woman who is devoted, willing to fight for your cause in the face of opposition, despite her own anxieties. You can see the fierce determination etched on her face as she steps forward to protect you without a word, her body tense with anticipation, in fear. When you finally call her name, the tension in her features begins to melt away, replaced by a gentle warmth and concern.
She is a woman who swivels her head at the familiar sound of your voice, her expression lighting up as she searches the crowd for you. Her feathers, a stunning array of iridescent colors, create a soft glow that sets her apart from those around her. As she spots you, her wings unfold gracefully, flapping with an animated rhythm that mirrors the excited wag of a dog’s tail, betraying her eagerness and joy.
She is a woman who tends to withdraw due to her fear of making mistakes. Despite this distance, she can't help but keep a watchful eye on you from afar, silently ensuring your safety. Her protective instincts drive her to monitor your well-being, even if she struggles to engage directly. It’s a complex balance of wanting to be close yet feeling the need to maintain space, all rooted in her desire to shield you from potential harm.
She is a woman who, without even realizing it, orchestrates romantic outings in hidden, tranquil spots away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Whether it's a charming little picnic by a serene lake, a leisurely stroll through a secluded forest, or an unexpected sunset watching at a quiet beach, her natural inclination seems to draw her towards intimate settings that evoke a sense of magic and connection.
She is a woman who truly engages with every word you say, giving her full attention as you share your thoughts, stories, and even your frustrations. With her warm, inviting smile, she creates a safe space where you feel comfortable venting and rambling on. It’s as if she hangs on to each word, her eyes sparkling with empathy, reflecting a genuine interest in what you’re expressing. Whether you’re sharing a small triumph or a deep concern, she listens intently, her expression soft and encouraging, making you feel heard and valued in every moment you spend together.
She is a woman who embodies the saying "actions speak louder than words." Her deeds often convey her intentions and feelings more powerfully than any spoken language could. Despite the fatigue that often accompanies lengthy conversations, she perseveres in her efforts to articulate her thoughts and ideas for you. Her determination to communicate, even when drained, highlights her commitment to connecting with you, ensuring that her message is heard and understood.
She is a woman who cherishes the beauty of subtle, gentle touches that convey warmth and affection. As her relationship deepens, she finds herself growing more impulsive and adventurous, exploring this newfound intimacy with enthusiasm. Unbeknownst to her, each shared moment and intimate gesture signifies her personal growth, allowing her to shed layers of hesitation and embrace the comfort of being herself. With each passing day, she becomes increasingly attuned to her own desires, relishing in the freedom of expressing her feelings openly and confidently.
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"And consort?" I whisper. "We aren't married." He fucking smirks. "I've noticed. But 'girlfriend' is missing that permanent tone." ~Violet Sorrengail and Xaden Riorson, Rebecca Yarros, Onyx Storm
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Decision
Nic reflects on a fluffy, domestic moment, inspired by this list by @creativepromptsforwriting
We are always one decision away from a completely different life. The decision to use. The decision to stay sober. But the best decision I have ever made is standing next to me, drying the dishes as I wash them in the home we have made together for the family we have made together.
She is my lifeline. My tether to reality on the really rough days. My life partner and mother of my children. I fall in love with the way she dances in the kitchen when she thinks I'm not looking. The way she looks up at me and smiles, shaking her head as she wipes paint off of our daughter's face and hands (again). The way she tirelessly gives of herself, staying up late to sew costumes for our son's play, and never asks for anything in return. She is our rock.
She accidentally bumps into me, interrupting my internal musing. "Oops, pardon me, handsome." She looks up at me, batting her eyelashes. "Come here often? Can't say I've seen you around these parts before," she teases in a fake old Western movie accent.
I love the way her smile reaches her eyes. The way she keeps things light and fun. The embodiment of pure sunshine.
"No, ma'am. I'm new in town. I hardly ever do the dishes, so I'm told," I retort playfully in character.
"Well, I could show you around, if you'd like."
Unable to resist any longer, I lean down to kiss her, only to be met with heckling from our own kids who tried to sneak in behind us for a snack.
"Eww, gross!" they shout, mimicking retching sounds.
I break away to laugh and spare them from further embarrassment, but she throws her arms around my neck and pulls me down, peppering my face with kisses and exaggerated "mwah" noises to get even more of a rise out of them.
As the kids run out of the room, she looks up at me again, cheeks flushed and out of breath from laughing at her own shenanigans. I set my hands on her hips and pull her closer to stare into her eyes, amazed at just how lucky I am.
But that's the thing - I'm not. Every day is a decision. Every day is intentional. Every day I choose her. I choose us. This is the life I want.
