#sunreaving

I was friends with Dave and Eth through their relationship as well as their breakup. I was one of the people that suggested the two part ways, as I had seen and heard of the abuse that Dave was suffering-- I thought personally, that it would be better for both of them if they parted ways. Eth took advantage of the fact that I was a neutral party, and a very empathetic one at that, and used it to try and convince me of all the things Dave mentioned, which I found out later he did not do. He tried to tell me that Dave used slurs, he tried to tell me that Dave publicly ridiculed him and that he was racist.

I didn’t entirely believe him of course, I’ve been in Dave’s server, and I’ve been friends with him for a long time, and not ONCE has he EVER said a racial slur or tolerated anything to that effect at ALL. But he’d constantly push that point. It felt like he only talked to me so that he could shit talk his ex, or to threaten suicide and have me talk him out of it.

Multiple times in my RP guild, which he’d been invited to by the guild leader out of the kindness of his heart because he was worried for Eth, he would be disruptive and ruin specifically planned events. He would use his fetishistic dog character to do stupid things that wasted HOURS of our time. He would also leave passive aggressive remarks about the guild leader in the vent channel of our discord. He ended up being kicked for being toxic, but I stayed friends with him, because I was empathetic towards him. He promised me he’d do better.

On multiple occasions, though I may not have seemed upset by it, he pressured me into roleplaying with him/shipping with him... in one instance, he even pressured me into erping with him. I was incredibly uncomfortable with it, and it still makes me uncomfortable to think about. I found out later after telling a friend that they had also experienced similar behavior from him, and that it had really made them uncomfortable.

I was friends with some people that Eth had fallen out with previously because of his lying and manipulation. They had their own reasons to be uncomfortable with him, valid ones at that, but I don’t want to include their stories in my post. Constantly, he would stalk and harass my friends in game, standing on top of them in bear form as they tried to rp, using toys and mounts, and spam emoting at them while they were standing there trying to harmlessly roleplay. If they moved and blocked him, he’d get on a new character and hunt them down. This is when I was on the breaking point, hearing about him harassing my friends.

Then, I saw him sending anonymous messages to himself, again. I’d seen him doing this before, but it never bothered me enough to say anything. It’s hard to explain how I knew they were his doing… but the subject matter was so out of the blue and specific to something that he obsessed over, that I knew it had to be him.

The topic was that of black/brown elves. A topic that I’m strongly all for. I think elves can be any colour anyone wants them to be. But he has a strange obsession with making himself seem like the harbinger of all brown elves for some reason. He had begun sending himself hateful anons to get brownie points from his followers, and in my agitation, I sent him an ask saying ‘Maybe you should stop sending yourself anons and being self righteous about them’, and unfollowed him (as well as blocked him on all platforms), because at this point I was fed up with him CREATING drama.

Again, I know that this is hard to prove, but all I have is my word of mouth, and I ask you all to trust my judgement. I am 99% sure of my statement.

He then proceeded to post this screenshot to a chat which I was not in.

Mind you, I regret sending this anonymous message. It was very passive aggressive. I was just so fed up with his behavior that I snapped, and that is entirely on me. However, his reaction afterwards was completely uncalled for.

Previously, Eth had commissioned me for a total of 60$. I hadn’t completed his commission yet, and didn’t plan to after all of this shit went down, of course. So as I was about to give him his refund through paypal, literal MINUTES later, I received a message from a friend, telling me that Eth had gone crying to them that I had stolen his money.

I gave him his refund after he issued a paypal dispute, and it was solved quickly because I’m not a fucking crook, like he was trying to make me out to be. However… I found out that he had been going to not only my FRIENDS but to people I didn’t even KNOW and was trying to spread rumors behind my back. Thankfully, some of the people who he’d talked to either came to me, or I had talked to them about it and cleared it up. Because they knew I wasn’t the way he’d made me out to be.

This was what the person in yellow said when I talked to them about what was happening.

Soon after, my friends and I began receiving a lot of anonymous messages. Many claiming my friend and I had r*pe kinks, With absolutely no proof or justification at all. Almost all my friends and I received the SAME photo of Eth’s toes, which I was able to deduce because I have seen Eth’s desk before and I know his skin tone. It was creepy and disgusting. Around the same time, I also received these terrifying and offensive anonymous messages.

This was from either Kizz, or his friends. One of his friends was even harassing another of MY friends off of anon, without knowing the full situation.

This caused a lot of turmoil for me as I do my best to be a good person and to be friendly and approachable, but my friends and mutuals were being manipulated, just as I had been, by my own abuser. And it hurt. It hurt that I’d lost a friend, it hurt that I’d been lied to, and it had hurt that I’d been used in the way I did.