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Family Feud: Unraveling the Gosselin Allegations and Strained Bonds Read the full article

Sometimes neither of you are aware of it. Sometimes out of their own subconscious fear of being alone they say and do things to make you stay, or isolate you. And it’s not just limited to significant others and friends. It can be your own parents. And it’s the worst when it’s them because “they have your best interests in mind.” It’s hard especially with them because they will rarely see it for what it is, and you’re lucky if you catch it. Even when you do, you have to painstakingly question every negative thought you have and ask if it’s real. Sometimes they’re right, sometimes they’re wrong, but after years and years the lines are blurred. It just becomes easier to go along with what they say, regardless of right and wrong. How do you forgive that? If they’re unaware, how can it be their fault? But if you try to tell them, they shoot you down, no matter how you explain it, they turn it around on you, because you’re actually the one who’s being manipulative, not them. How could they possibly forgive such an ungrateful child?