#stopwastingmytime

I've noticed afew people on here, like to pm me and talk about a plot and sadly they never answer. so, please. if you are not going to answer, and be online constantly without a reason on why you aren't messaging me. then I will delete our pm and block you.

I do not want people wasting my time on waiting when you could have compassion and tell me why you weren't replying or even answering after a few days, but you've been online?

It’s been about a month since I blogged any of my dating adventures, and that’s really because I have been taking some time to think about what it is I want in a relationship and also really taking a hard look at what I am willing to compromise on or put up with.

I went out on a date with a guy who seemed to be amazing - he respected all my limits, there was physical chemistry...but there were things that struck me as odd about what he was telling me regarding the reason he didn’t have a car. Then there was the fact that we’d been on only one date but he’d already made me cry three times.

Hello, red flags. You exist for a reason.

I got sick and I was immediately was subjected to passive aggressive texts that made me feel bad that I was sick and had to cancel plans. Then it was texts that made it seem like I was crazy for thinking that is how he meant the texts.

So yeah, Passive Aggressive Guy was history.

Then there was the dude from high school who had no recollection of who I was, even though we totally graduated in the same class. I recall him being kind of shy but adorable, totally crush worthy, and someone who never dated much (as far as I could tell, since we weren’t in the same social circles and I don’t think we ever said more than one word to one another if that).

Texts were exchanged for like a week. Until he asked if he could take me on our first meeting to a logging road and finger fuck me.

Uh.....no thanks. I know you, but I don’t KNOW you.

1. You could murder me and no one would ever know or find my body.

2. Um, this is not a normal first date and how any woman would say yes to this when she hasn’t even met the person yet or even gotten a feel for any type of chemistry there may or may not be, is beyond me.

3. I am NOT that girl.

And after I said no to that, he would never actually pull the trigger to get together in a public place for a drink or anything.

The things that guy was asking for made me feel like a whore, which I am surely not. This is where #KnowYourWorth comes into play. Do not let ANYONE ever pressure you into doing something you are not comfortable with.

Yes, you may be lonely or you may fear that by saying no, you will lose his attention. But if that makes you lose his attention, here’s a thing you should know:

HE ISN’T FOR YOU.

So, High School Guy is history, too.

Lastly, there was Super Awkward Guy, who suggested we go see a movie near him and planned the whole thing, only to make me wait 10 minutes past our meet up time and then reveal to me that he purchased the wrong time for the movie. I had eaten before the meet because we were having a late dinner, so I suggested we could go do lunch but I wouldn’t be able to eat anything, and he felt that was weird to eat in front of me but then we went to Starbucks and dude ate a cookie in front of me just fine. And even though he lived in that area, he had no idea what was around there to do, so we ended up walking through the mall then going to Barnes and Noble, and then I left.

No plans to see that guy again, since before I even went I didn’t feel any chemistry and I certainly didn’t feel any after that awkward date.

Since then, it’s been a parade of guys asking for sex, nude photos, if I’m good in bed, or basically trying to bullshit me without making any effort to actually go out. All these dudes are getting blocked the minute any of that comes through in their messages.

Ultimately, I guess the purpose of this post is to say that even though I am losing faith in this whole process, I am still out there trying. I have a date Sunday with a guy I think is cool but again, things never seem to turn out the way I think they will, so....I’m just hoping for the best and not really expecting very much.

And P.S. ----