lips anon

Hey so this is really new for me but I just need to ask someone or tell someone who's unbiased? This is my first time being on here because I'm usually scared but here we go.

So I'm having some issues at home. My father recently started acting nicer (He's financially and Emotionally abusive) and I kept waiting for the other boot to drop. Well I slipped up and told him my mom was excited to finally see her family for the first time in years and now he's not letting her go. I know it's because I accidentally let him know she was extremely excited and if I hadn't said anything she'd be going. I know I shouldn't have trusted him like I always do it just hurts I guess? I don't know what to do and I'm only 15 so I can't even leave. I also don't know if he'll let me leave when I turn 18 because he's controlling. I don't have any money saved up or anything I genuinely feel like a fool in this situation and don't know what to do.

Do you have any sort of advice for anything?

Sorry this took a while to answer, your ask disappeared and then reappeared!

Okay first of all, I need you to understand that you have NOTHING to feel guilty for. Your dads shit actions are his own, and you can't blame yourself for that.

Honestly, my advice is to start coming up with a plan now for when you turn 18. Get a job if you can to start saving up, figure out the best course of actions so you're able to leave when you become an adult. it'll be good to focus on something positive and have a goal, and if you don't end up having to use your plan that's okay too. But if you get educated on your rights, the best way to be independent, etc, then you'll be prepared as soon as you're able to make that happen. Also then the next few years won't feel as hopeless, because you're focused on that.

I'm sending you so much love <3

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Stage Anon

hi cas,

i've been wanting to ask for advice for a while but i've been so scared to actually write out want i'm feeling but oh well here we are

for quite a few years now i've been feeling like i might like girls. not just girls, but it's always been something at the back of my mind since i was about 11 or 12

in the last few months i started to do more research into sexuality stuff and i'm 99% sure i'm bi, like even the word rlly feels so comforting to me

i've come out to my bf and one of my close friends, they were both rlly supportive and said they'd kinda guessed for a long time

the issue is that my school friends are not the kind of people that would accept me, they genuinely are not bad people but they aren't the type to understand or to fully accept me as me

i love them all dearly, but i've realised they only know a very small part of me that i show them in school

next year, i'm moving into a new stage of school and i would love to be able to have told them by then so that i can start trying to properly be myself around them

but yeah i really don't know how they would react and i don't want to lose them

what do you think i should do?

(ps. you're really cool and your jegulus microfics are the only thing getting me through this school year)

Hi <3 I'm so glad your bf and close friend were supportive! I would probably start by talking about queer stuff in general around your other friends. Like bring up queer celebrities, queer media, queer issues, etc, and see how they react. That way you can figure out their vibes and maybe help them with any biases or anythign they're ignorant about before you make it personal by coming out, you know?

Good luck! <3

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Dog anon

I have a crush on my brothers bestfriend.... kind of always had it. Idk if he's really nice with me or if he's flirting. It annoys me to think he's not interested in me. I mean ... we have a nice time hanging out, we don't have much in common though but like I don't know if I should try and flirt more with him, or like leave it as it is.... a part of me does want to flirt but then I did see him send a hills picture to my brother last year, and he's the type to date to marry and since he's not married her maybe he's single? Because it was just a picture with no caption. Never asked my brother about it... maybe I should just ask him directly right... are you signle... or soooo what about your love life... idk I seem to be very lost because he's not my type at all. Maybe I just wantbto have fun ??? Am I wrong for wanting something?

Sorry for the rant 😭😭😭

Hi!

I don't think you're wrong at all for these feelings. I think it's pretty common and natural for this to happen. But honestly I think my advice really depends on what your ages are. Could you maybe send me another inbox back with that info? But based on what you're saying...idk, you're saying you don't have a lot in common, he's not your type...could it be that you think he's cute but you don't actually want to date him? I think it might be a good idea to take some time to figure out how you feel before you do anything, you know?

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Family Dynamics Anon

Family dynamics anon

I'm actually going to throw myself off a building I got 20 out of 40 in my arabic test TWENTY now I'm not good in arabic at all I ignored the grammar since it's too difficult and just focused on poetry literature and the story cuz they are much easier then grammar I also got the full mark on one of the mouthy tests and got 9 in the other every test is from 15

40% of the grade is for the class notebook to get the full 40% you have write notes for every lesson and do the hw I did just that but my teacher still didn't give me my full 40% cuz I was didn't go to school a lot cuz I was sick I literally gave the school doctors notes for my absence I at least was supposed to get 30% she didn't give at all she even did the same thing with half the girls in the class for stupid reasons too

Since it's a mid term grade it won't affect me at all but I'm just really fucking pissed at this teacher it's like the second she had actual big control over students grades she immediately started going at it like I've never gotten a grade this bad since 7th grade

Hi <3 This all sounds so frustrating, I'm sorry! At least it sounds like you have time to turn it around? I'm sending you all the academic success vibes!

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USAID anon

Hey cas its usaid anon. Most of what we know is rumors but my mom had a meeting about the whole situation. Basically people who work for the state department are actually sane so i think they're letting people stay until the end of the school year. Idk much tho its really hard to get correct information right now even though im within the embassy sphere.

The emails my parents have been getting are crazy tho. The main 2 that we always talk about is one that basically told everyone in the embassy that quitting is an option and they would get administrative paid leave until like september or something if they quit now so they would have time to figure things out. The other one was pretty expected but it was telling i think every federal worker not just state to take their pronouns out of their emails.

Ugh i hate this so much.