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There is already a huge amount of difficulty around getting this behavior recognized as abusive by victims. Abusers rely on the lack of clarity about what is/isn't acceptable, what is or isn't attractive, machismo, etc. When we present these things as at all attractive or desirable in media, it only adds to that doubt that a lot of abuse victims struggle with. I encourage you to look at the critiques of Twilight's Bella/Edward as an example of laying out abusive relationships as fun and exciting in teen media.

As a fan of horror fiction, i recognize the trope of possession/jealousy is really common, but its important as a writer to take personal responsibility for how that is being presented, and for our editing ability; are these things unthinkable- is this character crossing the line and is that being made clear to the audience- or is this idealized, glamorized, and made attractive?

I hope this isnt overwhelming or upsetting; Im by no means trying to attack you or your writing. I hope that engaging in this conversation helps you take that responsibility, even in a small fandom, and I appreciate your time.

What I hope is, as you write the 'yandere' tropes- and maybe especially address areas where the reader "loves" the abuse, even on past posts- you take a look at the following list and compare it to what you've written. I feel like you will immediately recognize a lot of what you've included, and why thats harmful. Thanks dude

I kind of understand where you’re coming from?

Now that I’ve stopped to think about my writing, it doesn’t really fit into the ‘yandere’ type of writing? So I fully understand where you’re coming from.

When I write ‘yandere’ requests ect I take into account the character that was been asked and I think of what they would do and wouldn’t do. Thinking this over, keeping the ‘reader’ held captive does not seem light, and that may have gone too far on my behalf.

I’ll go back and put a lot more warnings and in my future works on the matter I’ll spend way more time and consideration into my works to make sure they have the aspect of what’s asked and I keep it on the track of ‘yandere’ and not make it seem like an abusive relationship.

I hope you understand what I’m trying to say? As I’m not to good at voicing/ writing what I mean on stuff like this.

me: It’s okay, I already have pee on me.

male person: *laughter*