yesterday my choir teacher had us listen to the first movement of Shostakovich's "Leningrad" and while I was listening I kept trying to imagine how you'd listen to it to try and fully appreciate the piece (because oh my gosh it's amazing); I was wondering if you've ever listened to it and what you think of it in terms of being a programmatic piece? Are you a fan of Shostakovich in general?

putting cold, wet washcloths on the nape of the neck, around your ankles, and around your wrists are good ways to make the heat more bearable!

I remember that when my partner would request space to be alone when they were upset, it was good to send them a small text or write them a note acknowledging their need to be alone but also saying if they need anything I'm here for them and want to help if they want it; they didn't always take me up on my offer for help, but it was more about the sentiment behind the message and they always appreciated that. Maybe sending John a small message with something along those lines might help?

I don't think it's that John doesn't want you to help him, I think it's just he needs some time alone to process. Some things can only be processed/dealt with alone, especially if you're overwhelmed about something. Your John loves you and he'll always come back to you, he just might need a moment to compose himself and sort through what he did today.