#skissues

“I hate to get "political" this early in the day but I just have some thoughts on my mind...

Why do people think that me "finding a man" is going to be the "cure" for my asexuality, lesbianism, etc? Do they think that I'm going to suddenly fall to my knees overcome with passion and go "OH GOD THIS IS JUST WHAT I'VE BEEN LOOKING FOR"? And I hate to use cissexist language but I know damn well they mean a cisgender man with a working penis who will "cure" me by fucking these aspects of who I am, who I choose to be, out of me? 

What is with this constant invalidation of my own personal opinion of myself? Why when I have finally accepted myself as I am, fallen in love with myself as I am, do people feel the need to tell me that I'm wrong for that. That there's something broken in me, that I fucked up somehow, and that the only possible way for me to get "cured" is by getting fucked by some holy blessed dick (in both meanings of the word)!

What is this society that we live in that I, as a 23 almost 24 year old adult, have to listen to older adults push their opinions of my sexuality on me and tell me I'm wrong and expect to just sit there in silence and take it?

So for starters...

I will NOT be finding some rich man to marry and take care of me because I like expensive things. I will be becoming successful myself and taking care of my own damn self.

I will NOT be changing who I am to fit into some notion of who you want me to be. That's not what I'm about from this point forward. 

Please realize that the very dialogue you're engaging in when you're addressing me is an invasion into my privacy. I mentioned an aspect of *who* I am to you--*came out* as it were so you would understand that I do not fit into this heterosexual society and I have no intention of ever doing so--and not as a way to "flaunt what I do in the bedroom". That's your own imagination going that direction. 

My identity is not inherently sexual and nor is it in need of a "cure".

please keep us updated Sammya