Pet Peeves
So I have been single for 8 months, and for the most part I really enjoy it. There are some things about having a boyfriend that I miss, mostly the affection and intimacy that you can have whenever the mood takes you, but other than that being single is generally kinda rad.
My pet peeve has developed from something that has been coming out of the woodwork with increasing regularity from people around me. People, who I am not especially close to, continue to ask me "Why are you single?" or another great one "Why haven't you found a boyfriend yet". While I understand that comments such as these are coming from a place of good intention, there is something that bothers me about the assumption that I 'need' to have a boyfriend in order to be happy and content with what I am doing with my life.
Other times it has been said to me with a sense of incredulity, as if, because I am still single there must be something wrong with me, something hidden which is broken or damaged and this fact is the only possible explanation for why I might still be single.
So while I am not necessarily particularly for or against finding a boyfriend at this point of time, what I am against is feeling judged because I am actually happy and content on my own and in my own company. And perhaps, if people wish to tell me that they think I am pretty awesome, they could take a slightly different approach.
